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3 Games Men Need to Stop Playing When They Date (5391 hits)


BY: Stephan Labossiere - 19 Nov '14 | Relationships
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Men it is time to start being better men and stop with all the negativity some contribute to dating and relationships. I understand that some of you may not fully understand the damage you do to women, and to the overall state of relationships, but that’s why I am doing my part to make sure you are now informed on the reality of these issues. Be brave and drop the pride, while I show you the way and help you take the necessary steps to becoming the best man you can be.

Let’s begin with these 3 things many of you need to start doing moving forward:

1. Stop Playing Games: Be Honest About Your Intentions

If you’re simply looking for some booty, then please stop allowing her to believe that you may want more than that. It’s not cool, and it is simply causing more damage and more dysfunction in the crazy world of relationships. I mean don’t get me wrong, I know when a woman says, “If a guy just wants s*x, then just say it” isn’t a suggestion that will typically help you reach your goal. It was a great line some woman came up with to help weed out the guys who are just after s*x.

However, it would still be best to take an honest approach. You can still find women who are on the same page as you, and you don’t have to lie or “play boyfriend” to get what you want. I’m in no way saying that s*x should be your focus, because it shouldn’t, but I understand that this is what a lot of men desire while dating. Just take a better approach so that you can avoid creating more issues.

2. Stop Being So Dependent: Learn How to Be a Man

The behavior of being dependent on a woman to take care of you, and not knowing how to stand on your own two feet is unacceptable. It needs to stop immediately. You will never be able to properly take care of a woman in a way that she needs or desires if you have yet to learn how to take care of yourself. Some of you may know how to stand on your own, but you may be what some consider a “momma’s boy”.

It’s great that you love your mother, but if you don’t learn how to cut that umbilical cord now, you will have major issues when you get married and you keep putting your mother over your wife (which in my opinion is not a good move at all). It is time to stand on your own merits and start being the best man you can be. Your future girlfriend/wife is not going to be happy with some guy who can’t take initiative to do anything for himself.

She is not going to be happy carrying an extra burden in the relationship because she does not have a man she can count on. Yes, I know some of you are being taken care of by your woman, so you may figure “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it”. Well guess what, it is broken, you just don’t see the cracks and dysfunction clearly. Trust me, if you keep it up , it will become painfully clear how broken it really was the entire time.

3. Stop Being Clueless: Try to Understand Women


I always say, “You don’t have to understand all women, just focus on making a genuine effort to understand your woman”.

Which is true, however, gaining some general understanding of women is a great place to start and it will help you moving forward. You may think you know plenty, but many times you may not have a clue. That reality will eventually slap you in the face once you’re in a serious relationship or marriage. So here is the deal, you can either wait till that time comes and try to learn on the fly or you can get started now and be ready for when that day comes.

I’m not talking about tips and tricks to maneuvering through a woman’s mind and heart. I’m talking about a genuine attempt to understand women and the ways that many of them operate. You wouldn’t wait until the championship game before you raise your level of play, you would practice well in advance so that you have a shot to win that championship. Well, it is the same thing here and if you’re smart, you won’t waste another day waiting to prepare yourself.

There it is right there and I’m sure many women would agree with this list. The man that takes heed to this message will be a few steps ahead of the other guys that are too prideful to take some good advice. If you’re a woman reading this, pass it along. The more men we can get to start doing better, the more we can create a positive environment that benefits both men and women. It’s about to be a New Year, and it is time for a new approach.

About the author

Stephan Labossiere wrote 43 articles on this blog.

Stephan Labossiere is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, and Author of the #1 Best Seller "God Where Is My Boaz" as well as the Award Winning book "How To Get A Woman To Have s*x With You...If You're Her Husband". Stephan is on a mission to help men and women experience happier, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. He is a highly sought after coach and speaker who has been seen, heard and chronicled in various national and international media outlets. You can also checkout Stephan on Youtube.
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..."If you’re simply looking for some booty, then please stop allowing her to believe that you may want more than that."...


Absolutely!



Tuesday, November 25th 2014 at 7:25PM
Jeni Fa
@ Jeni

Keep it real if you going to get it in !
Wednesday, November 26th 2014 at 6:50PM
Yaiqab Saint
Yep!



Thursday, December 4th 2014 at 6:51PM
Jeni Fa
Besides, there are women that don't want relationships like prostitutes but these playa probably don't want to spend money because they want the cookies for free.



Thursday, December 4th 2014 at 6:52PM
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