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OUR ANGRY CHILDREN (2867 hits)

I often find topics to write about that are usually associated with what I encounter each day of my living. Just yesterday, I met a parent who asked the question of her child. He was a little black boy of about the age of 5. She spoke of his anger and outbreaks of tempers. Inquiring me to answer, she asked me: "What makes our children so angry?" Of course, I hesitated in answering because, I know there may be different factors that causes outbreaks of anger in children. The onset of anger may be caused a great deal by several factors effecting the child's growth. I did answer, that it is could be a "number of things", one I know may be caused by what is being presented in the intake of the child's mind. What is going on around he or she? What are they absorbing everyday? i.e. What are they being taught, or what conditions are they living in? Then, it could be causes I stated, in what they are lacking in experiencing such an emotion as strong as anger?

I don't think I gave her much a solution, or that I answered her question. Sure fingers can be pointed at any certain laws of temperment. How can a parent learn to handle anger management in her child? I did suggest she may want to catch it before it becomes too far out of control. Which of course, may very well lead to far worse problems later on. All anger displayed is not an illness, it is a cry for help. It can very well be a cry for love. We do not want to grow up our children as being a new society of angry voices -- voices of violence! We suffer enough of the outrage of our youth already. Our society see black on black crime everyday! I know that with confronting an angry child we all need to a solution or even an resolution. Are we as parents raising up such an angry generation of children? We are leaving out something very important, something that is in great need be found again ...and soon. The angry children will grow up and become angry men and angry women. Will anger be the cornerstone of our new houses? Surely it will be houses that will crumble and fall; because houses that are divided will certainly fall. The angry children are needing a shoulder to hold them. One's outcrying of angry is very well also an outcrying to find themselves. A black unity is required, a negative view is requiring some change. Change can begin in our reversing our angry children.

addeumn: Let's stop telling our children they are bad. I hear it often spoken to them. "He's so bad" or "She's so hardhead.. bad little girl" Find other words that a positively encouraging.

I AM MIISRAEL

Posted By: MIISRAEL Bride
Tuesday, November 18th 2008 at 11:22AM
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..."I don't think I gave her much a solution, or that I answered her question"...

I think the answer is multi-factorial like you said Miisrael, but first things first. There could be some underlying mental health issues that need to be diagnosed and treated, because children do suffer with these. If mental health issues are suspected then perhaps the appropriate mental health referrals can be made to help the child. On the other hand, in the event that the mental health issues are ruled out; my next school of thought would be to question the mother about her own childhood and whether she has unresolved anger, bitterness, un-forgiveness, and resentment issues that are being transferred to her son.

I agree with you that anger in 5 years old is not good and is a cry for help and besides, children aren’t born angry. Negative emotions are learned as well as they are transferrable to our children which are the reasons we need to be careful regarding what we say, do, and speak into their little lives. . There is definitely some underlying issues that should be addressed and only the mother will be able to give us the inside scoop on this.

Let’s face it, children don’t come with an instruction manual and not every mother and father knows how to parent. Sometimes parenting is by trial and error which is not good for our children who end up becoming little guiney pigs in our experiments. I am not saying that this mother is doing anything wrong, but as parents we should be investing into our children’s' lives by providing the best we can for them and in this mother’s case, if she feels something is wrong with her child, she should definitely have him seen by a “TRUSTED & PROVEN” pediatrician.

Tuesday, November 18th 2008 at 1:02PM
Jen Fad

Great feedback Jen I don't know if there are any real true solutions to cover every child, some answers may be suitable to one but not to another child. Personalities are different for each individual. It's some what complicated but not impossible. We have to get parents to know what signs to watch for. Great advice, thanks friend.
Tuesday, November 18th 2008 at 4:48PM
MIISRAEL Bride

Dr. House...You make a terrific point. Children today are raised differently than I was raised. This could be a cause to some of their anger,..."I'm not saying that is, however; I know a tremdous amount of R.E.S.P.E.C.T. for their parents is absence in the new generation of kids. Thanks for your positive input!
Thursday, November 20th 2008 at 12:59PM
MIISRAEL Bride