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Meet the Kilodavis family. They have no problem with Dyson, 5, dressing up in girls' clothing and jewelry. He particularly likes princess outfits. Dyson's mom Cheryl wrote a book about her son, titled My Princess Boy. It's now used in Dyson's school as an anti-bullying measure. In a brutally honest television interview, Cheryl (and dad Dean) talks about what happened when she first saw Dyson dressing in girls' clothes, and how she went from frustration and denial to acceptance and embrace. These are the messages parents need to receive, not those of jerks. Just be sure you wait until the end, when Dyson's brother Dkobe speaks. It breaks your heart. Read more: http://www.queerty.com/dyson-kilodavis-5-l...
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Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 10:53AM
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Jake...for the life of me. I've never fully understand homos*xuality. I just can't find an direct reasoning for it...and so I don't really see it as something someone was born to be, but more as one chooses to become.
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 2:27PM
MIISRAEL Bride
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wow!! Let's hope he's into fashion and that he grows up to be a famous designer.... Personally I would be shocked... as this parent.... maybe it's just his expressions and not his s*xuality.... he's only 5
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 2:50PM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
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Bee, I can see your point. He's still little. However, I don't think in my parenting I would encourage it by allowing it to continue. It doesn't "FIT"...
"Hay!..Busy Bee!....."
Lol!
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 3:00PM
MIISRAEL Bride
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People are born with both feminine and masculine genes. It does take a man and woman to create babies through procreation. Usually in females it is the feminine that is dominate, just like in males it is the masculine gene that is dominate. In homos*xuals the reverse is dominate based on the gender. Ex. in this case, the feminine gene is more dominate and there are many people that will say they knew when they were small children about their s*xuality.
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 3:02PM
Marquerite Burgess
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Hey Miisrael....
Sista MB.... I know.... but lets hope he is surrounded around a lot of females and hes just observing their behavior....
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 3:25PM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
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AM I READING RIGHT his dad co-sign this behavior ?
is this his real dad or what ?
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 3:31PM
DAVID JOHNSON
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I think this is a really great blog and I am really passionate about the GLBT community, because I feel they are really taking a lot of un-necessary "heat" for their differences. Although we might not all agree with the parents of Dyson, I believe it is really important to encourage our kids in the areas that interest them without being judgmental.
My son likes the feel of satin/silk, like the color pink so much so that he wanted the pink Dora backpacks he saw the girls at school with. He would mention having one (backpack so I wanted to buy him one but my husband said its not everything that a kid asks for that a parent should give~) but that's different from Dyson's story. Dyson loves shiny pretty things. I would like to point out that most kids don't know the differences at that age about what colors are ok for them to wear. That's an adult’s socialization type chore to steer children toward culturally acceptable norms which isn't always good.
We need to encourage "uniqueness & individuality" in our children. Moreover, Dyson's mom did try to steer him towards what's she's been taught by society and her parents as what's appropriate and acceptable for boys. It did not work.
More than anything, Dyson is a human being and he should be treated as such. What a really wonderful school who has embraced Dyson and I wish that he will never have to be picked on for his choices, but we all know that's not going to happen. Wow his parents and little brother are truly amazing and all kids should have families like this!!!
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 4:36PM
Jen Fad
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im with you clark im not having this in my house
get the football the boxing gloves lets take it to another level
for the father to sit and say its ok maybe he's got a lil sugar in
his tank too ! it takes a man to make a boy a real man !
all fathers need to see this ! next thing you know there will
be a school test telling if your kid is gay or not 1
this is a HOT MESS !
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 5:20PM
DAVID JOHNSON
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I agree with you Brothers. Most 5 year olds don't know a lot about homos*xualty, so right now I look at it as just a phase he is going through. But if I had a son, I don't think I would encourage it by allowing it to continue either.
I understand the father is trying to be an compassionate parent to his son, but there is a difference between being an COMPASSIONATE parent and being a CRAZY parent...
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 6:43PM
Siebra Muhammad
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What should they do? Make him feel wrong for his choice? Treat him badly because of his choice. Would I be happy if my son was his age and this is what he wanted to do, NO but I won't stop loving him either. As to s*xuality, only adults had that label to things and view things in that manner. This is an innocent child that likes this particular thing, it maybe for the moment or it maybe for a lifetime, either way his parents must make sure their son is mentally, emotionally and spiritually healthy. If a daughter had a major love for football, wanted to play it, wear the full uniform and never wanted to wear skirts, dresses or play with dolls? Does that mean she is or will engage in a homos*xual lifestyle one day. NO it does not. A man's manhood should not be threatened because his son's interest in not what society says it should be.
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 9:13PM
Marquerite Burgess
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ya yaeee
i wish i would catch my grandson with a barbie doll
i will be the first to buy him a machine gun (toy) and a supper soaker when we get through he will forget all about barbie ! parent are in charge of what goes in the mind of there kids !
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 10:17PM
DAVID JOHNSON
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take that dress off ! guidance?
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 10:18PM
DAVID JOHNSON
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What says they are not being parents? Granted it may not be how others think they should handle it, but it does not say their not being parents or providing guidance.
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 10:24PM
Marquerite Burgess
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MY baby brother would kill me if he read this.... But I grew up around males only.... didn't have many female playmates other than my female cousins. My brother played dolls with me... dress up with me... and was rather cute, Id say..... Now that we are all adults... he's my strongest fashion critique.
He is a strong, black loving heteros*xual male. My mother never fussed at him about playing dolls with me... or playing dress up. In my opinion it's no different than children wanting to walk around in womens high heels.... both my sons went through that phase. My oldest as a child always wanted to wear my lip gloss... Again very masculine heteros*xual male.
NO... you can't bottle a child up and not allow him to express himself. Alot of times, young 5 years olds are just beginning to express their feelings based on their surroundings.
Society dictates people's opinions. I believe that the parents are doing what's best for their child... some of us may not agree... but children are to be loved, praised, and made to feel self worth.... Is this bad behavior? Is this unhealthy behavior? Or is this simply behavior that does not fall into society's idea of how a male child should behave?
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 10:40PM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
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i dident see the video but where is the guidance from the father >>> ''son try this dress on'' really ! some thing is wrong with this picture or im homophobic !
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 11:12PM
DAVID JOHNSON
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CYNTHIA ,,you in trouble im telling ...lmbo
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 11:14PM
DAVID JOHNSON
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David... he would kill me....
@Big Mann you make a valid point... Yes, it's up to the parents to provide the guidance ... model and shape the behavior... no doubt...
but sometimes there's more than meets the eye... We are social creatures alot of what we learned is based on the world around us and what we observe and yes, what we experience. I just would like to hope that little man is going through a phase and that he will grow out of it..... But if his mother continues to sit back on television promoting her book and showing her videos of her son in a dress... she's setting up a situation for him....
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 11:34PM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
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This blog does say her and her husband tried all types of things to get his interest in other areas, but it did not work. @ Cynthia, he has both of his parents and there are other parents in the same situation that can gain some understanding on how to deal with their child from the book.
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 11:50PM
Marquerite Burgess
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Yeah Sista MB.... all of a sudden Im torn... I just hope to God... I don't have to deal with anything of this nature...
Saturday, October 16th 2010 at 11:53PM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
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I think that the wife need to keep getting pregnant until she concieves a real girl. If the child wanted to play out in the street, would they allow it? There is nothing wrong with him liking bright colors, just get him some suits made in the colors he likes. He is a handsome little boy that is confused.
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 12:25AM
Helen Lofton
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CLARK AND HELEN
how did he get that way ?
the parents !
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 1:37AM
DAVID JOHNSON
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corey
i just fell on the floor man you made my night
slap the mom and dad and kick the kids ass !
day'em im rolling ! lmbo
i thought i had jokes ! ha ha ha
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 2:46AM
DAVID JOHNSON
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Well I can say this.... Clark, David, Saint, Corey you all are some strong black men.... Who share common opinions on this topic. It's something to be admired ...... I've said this before... Mothers love their sons.... Fathers teach their sons to become men. Luv u Mandingo Warriors ... (smile)
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 10:54AM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
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@ Sister Margerite, I totally agree with you on all your comments.
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 7:47PM
Jen Fad
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@ Jen, thank you. @ Cynthia, I have to respectfully disagree with a portion of your comment. I raised my son to be a strong great black man, that of which he is. Some mothers only love and coddle their sons and then there are mothers like myself, that coddled when needed and gave tough love when needed.
All children at this child's age start to notice different things about themselves. This is also the " you show me yours and I'll show you mine stage". Like I stated before, people may not agree with how these parents are handling this but they are his parents. Some people don't like how others are conducting themselves in their marriages, but at the end of the day it is the marriage of those people. This woman's book will be helpful to a lot of people, it may not be in my library of books to read or even the library of books to read of many of you commenting. It will be apart of the books to read for some parents that have tried everything to turn things around according to what society says it should be for their sons.
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 9:04PM
Marquerite Burgess
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Sista MB.... It's cool... we can all agree to disagree... I believe mothers can raise their sons to become Strong Great Black Men.... BUT I still say that a woman cannot teach a male child to become a man.... It takes a man to shape/stand as a role model for the male child. Im raising my son as a now single parent... I am the nurturer and the disciplinarian... He is going to be a great man.... His father is also active in his life and I believe that his guidance and his intrest in his son is very beneficial psychologically.
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 10:05PM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
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Yes, we can Cynthia. All I can say is this: You'd have to really know me and my testimony to know what this woman accomplished. =)
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 10:33PM
Marquerite Burgess
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I feel ya sista.... Im not saying impossible... And certainly I am most assured that you are a woman full of accomplishments... Strong Black Women... we all have a story.... ((smile))
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 10:38PM
Cynthia Merrill Artis
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yall just bring me the family for a week and they understand the rules ..
things like dresses, pantys, bra ,high heels ,lop stick ,eye shadow will not be talked about
things like wipes and chains ,boots and hair pulling and ass slaping will be the norm ...
depend on how long they stay ! ,,one shot one kill usmc !
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 11:08PM
DAVID JOHNSON
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sis
said i was a Mandingo Warriors ... (smile)
Sunday, October 17th 2010 at 11:25PM
DAVID JOHNSON
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