Is someone pushing your buttons
You feel insecure about a certain aspect of yourself (feel like you're not good enough for example) so when someone says something your emotions react to your inner doubts rather than what's real. So, once you figure out that area that needs to be healed it's far less likely that people will be able to push your buttons.
You're always going to come across those people who are absolute experts at making you feel guilty. They seem to be able to just pick up on what you feel insecure about. So, the trick is to ask yourself why it's making you feel guilty? What's the real issue deep down that's happening? Sometimes, it can be that it brings up a past event where you felt guilty because you hadn't done something then. So, instead of forgiving yourself and learning that you can change how you respond to similar situations, you just remember the guilt from the past.
What's really happening is that you're simply reacting to the other person's words. They don't make you mad or make you feel guilty. You do that yourself by responding to their words. They trigger a deep emotion in you. Once you figure out why you react a certain way to the other person, usually you can find an area within you where you feel less confident and maybe even quite insecure.
Once you deal with those feelings, then you'll notice the comments but you'll no longer react by feeling guilty. Often, even just the awareness of why you previously reacted to certain words will be enough to stop you from continuing to react in the future.
So, basically, sometimes feeling guilty is a sign of an area within you that needs to be looked at or healed. It's that awareness of why you react the way you do. What are the real feelings you're feeling when someone says something? (not good enough, no one will ever love you, not smart enough, etc.) It can actually turn out to be a gift because you can learn so much more about yourself and why you act and react the way you do.
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Posted By: DAVID JOHNSON
Wednesday, April 11th 2012 at 7:02PM
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