Peace,
Many of our brothers are fortunate to be able to or have been able to raise their children in one house hold and many have been fortunate enough to have an active role in their children's lives from the result of failed relationships. I have witnessed in some cases that the father continues the pattern of the absentee dad and I have also witnessed the other extreme where in it is engraved in the fathers heart to make sure what happened to him, does not repeat itself with him and his children. I'm saying happy fathers day to the real fathers and also to the ones that want to be a father in their child's life but is met with extreme opposition and difficulties do to their babies mommas.
Keep your head up brothers and don't give up! If all your attempts has failed and you are on child support, make sure that this is NOT ALL you are doing for your child or children. If you can not see them at least do something for them for their future. I suggest opening them up an account and putting something in it every week or when ever you get paid. Don't fail at this! When your child grows up, he or she is going to look you up and they gonna want to know what did you do for them. Yeah you can say you paid child support but hell that was mandatory see what I'm saying?
By opening up a joint account with them and eventually getting a secured credit card for them, you help them to establish credit early. Teenagers want you to buy them sneaks and outfits from time to time, use the card, there fore they have a chance to step into adult hood with some sort of established credit, see the play? Bottom line when they look you up and find you, have something more than just child support receipts and a bunch of excuses.
You Sisters that's reading this, if you are preventing the father of your child from seeing his offspring by setting all sorts of obstacles backed by the system, I am asking you to reconsider what you are doing and remove those barriers between the brother and his child. Don't teach them to hate their father, if he is no good than they will find that out for themselves but if you teach them to hate their father and place these obstacles between the two, your child may grow up and hate you for the rest of their lives for it. Sisters and brothers but more so sisters, share this with other sisters you know that's doing this. It's about the over all well being of the child not just the child support especially the check part.
Again my brothers that are being real fathers in their child's life, have a happy fathers day and for the fathers that are unable to be in their child's life because of circumstances mentioned... smile and keep your head up and know that you have a sister here that understands what you're going thru ...ya do what I suggested, it's gonna be OK, they are only children for a few years....do the right thing and you may have their loyalty and respect for life.
Peace!
Posted By: Siebra Muhammad
Saturday, June 16th 2012 at 3:53PM
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