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As Salaam Alaikum (Peace), This morning I learned I was kicked off of the Chocolate Pages Connect Social Site. I thought it was a site where Black writers could go to express themselves. Not all forms of expressions will be liked by everyone. I read things from writers I may not agree with 100%. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. We now live in a society where we have been trained to tread softly around delicate feelings. We came from a mighty people. We were brought over here, in a hellish condition, but we were tough. We were savagely beating, murdered, tortured, but we were tough. Since we have been here, we have lost who we once were. You never see an African talking to another African with nothing other than straight talk. An African will tell me to my face that I need to loose five pounds. An African will tell me to my face this thing, or that. I grew up in the projects where we spoke straight words. We have been so dumbed and baby-fied that I cannot even go to a site, that is supposedly for Black Writers and allow my expressions to flow. I wrote a blog titled “When did the definition of marriage change?” Since I wrote it, being a Black woman, I posted it on a site for Black writers. We have become so pasteurized and watered down that we aren’t even permitted to express ourselves on our own sites. What’s next? I got a response blasting me for my opinion, but she, like me, is entitled to her opinion. I didn’t remove her response. I also posted some Youtube videos of the Minister uplifting and talking about the value of the Black woman. I loved them and wanted to share them with others. I always feel uplifted when I hear the Minister talk about me and my sisters! I was given no warning, no reason, nothing.
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Monday, October 13th 2008 at 5:11PM
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Leah X your too black too strong...even for black people :) Its that old adage "white is right, black get back. Some black people still have an enslaved mind-set. I can't stand to read incidents like the one you encountered. Keep doing your thing.
Monday, October 13th 2008 at 10:13PM
Kenneth X
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I am so glad that you posted this blog. It seems to me that regardless of what race it is, people have learned to walk around with their "delicate feelings" right out there on the tip of their sleeve so that anyone who sneezes within a hundred yards of it will beat it to a pulp, and offense is inevitable. Daddy says we should pray, "Forgive us AS WE FORGIVE those who sin against us." Some get their panties in a bunch over the most insignificant things and blow it way out of proportion. I will give you an example. Just last week, I was asked by a neighbor if I could take her son to school because he'd missed the bus. My husband was running late that day for work as well, and I just was not able to jump at her beck and call. She shrugged me off when I returned, with enough time to get him to school, and hasn't spoken to me or even shown her face to me in six days now. She wouldn't accept my appology, and hasn't requested my help since.
Her son made it to school, and I am able and more than happy to help, WHEN IT IS IN MY HAND TO DO SO. But when it isn't in my hand to do, I am shunned for my imperfection. The fact remains that I am still a work in progress, and I am trying my best to get understanding with all my wisdom gathering. What a shame that we stifle the lines of communication because of offense. Why get defensive when we aren't trying to fight or start a war. Quite the contrary, we are trying to bring peace, hope, and love to a dying, parched, hungry and impoverished society. GB
Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 10:24AM
Lesley Knight
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The Prophets and Messengers of God suffered the same. You're in good company! (Smile)
RM
Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 12:46PM
Reuben Muhammad
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E, I agree totally. And as for westernization, I actually wondered the same thing.
And Leah, you're right, too. We DO come from a mighty people and that mightiness is not lost. And we've got to stop looking at the 'white man' as the source of ALL of our problems, especially problems caused by the decisions we make for OURSELVES. Goodness...you'd think the 'white man' was God or something.
Blessings...
Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 7:43PM
Dee Gray
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I think you guys are taking things too much to heart. Perhaps PMS is to explain for some of the responses, because it doesn't appear to be a dialogue that should call into question anything except people's personal choice and freedom of speech. I really don't think it should take all this back and forth.
Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 9:20PM
Jen Fad
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Furthermore whether we like it or yes, gays and lesbians are people, too. Although I am an American, I don't have to accept everything and don't accept everything as being the "norm" especially since what is normal today may not be normal tomorrow.
Tuesday, October 14th 2008 at 9:22PM
Jen Fad
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Jen, I don't think anyone here is PMSing. Some people just have more passionate views than others. And would the man who posted be PMSing, too? If he has a passionate response, what will you call HIM?
And yes, homos*xuals are people, too, but where is the mention of homos*xuality in any of these responses? This is not a blog about homos*xuality. Did you accidentally post to the wrong blog? (I'm not being smart. I'm seriously asking the question).
We (you and I and probably most of the people here) that we don't have to accept everything and don't accept everything as being the norm.
Blessings...
Wednesday, October 15th 2008 at 1:23PM
Dee Gray
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..."I wrote a blog titled “When did the definition of marriage change...
I got a response blasting me for my opinion, but she, like me, is entitled to her opinion. I didn’t remove her response..."
Dee the post the lady was referring to was a previous one 'When Did the Definition of Marriage Change'. I mentioned homos*xuals here after reading this post. Perhaps you need to read that post so that you can get a better understanding my sister. I didn't see anything wrong with it to the extent that someone would feel the need to boot her out of a group.
Americans just don't seem to respect others who have a different view and that is sad. Notice I didn't say that you have to agree, but there is no respect for other's opinion or beliefs if it doesn't fit what the status quo thinks it should be. Blessings & Peace to you as well.
Wednesday, October 15th 2008 at 4:57PM
Jen Fad
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Leah X, I have not read your Marriage blog, but as soon as I make this comment I will go read it. My take on marriage is that in America, it has nothing to do with what I know about Marriage according to what I have come to know about our Black culture.And, Because, Leah X, I am one of those rare African-Americans that can not nor will I ever accept that my 'culture' began in America or in the 60s.
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
ROBINSON IRMA
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I was disappointed that the White culture has left our people with no family structure at all.When I grew up it was in a three generation home. Moma was thelittle mother, big mother and queen of the family was grandmother as the oldest and most revered in the family make up. My uncle acted as father when needed and so did my grandfather. My mother and my grand mother were mother. I was a happy child. and honest child and a respecful child, teen and now as grandmother my self.I lived in a well adjusted home where every one had a job to do and things that they wanted but had to do with out.Food and love and safty were never one of these things. Love was always unconditional. Every one in my close family and those that are not close in kin's families are the same way. What, I call normal happy constructive and we all will all leave this planet a better place than we found it.
I do not speak for the likes or dislikes for my children (now adults)or anyone else,. I have this believe that I can only live, have control over only my life.As I see it we are all individuals therefore we should never put conditions on the potentionals of anyone even our selves.
If each of us step into the other person's shoes before passing judgement/decission and then dialoge(if we disagree) and if we do agree to get a better and fuller understanding. If we tend to start out disagreeing then go to a totally different subject all together.
I have said all of that to say this. MARRIAGE is a poece of form paper. If the couple are not friends who love and respect (or just respect)each other the relationship will not be happy/peacefull/secure because the couple will only be able to feed of of each other's weakness.
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
ROBINSON IRMA
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I just do not try to keep up with society calls a family any more as it changes too often.For example, Sarah Palin is running for VP. And, this is what I see of her "family" as a role model of "family"
America as a whole looks down on:teens having unprotected s*x, school drop outs, over weight children, children keep out of school for use as objects(media pictures), a six year old taking care of a 5 month old. No, I am not down on this being in a family as it happens in many familys.But, this is every thing that I am sure that the governor was AGAINST while running for that office.
Please do not let me get on her ability to live in another world while trying to bring Obama down. Like,abuse of power is not an automatic impeachment offensive in all of our 50 states.
But most of all Palin belongs to the party of family values.So, as I am commenting on what I see happening on her VP campaign trail, maybe the difinition of "family" in this country has changd; at leas for now that it is best for the Republican/Conservatives, right?then maybe they will get back to how the Black(ADULT) single mother is what is wrong in America, huh?
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
ROBINSON IRMA
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Having self respect always demands that you be shown respect. Out of this comes unconditional love for self and from others of 'your' choosing, always.Be friends with your mate or accept that they are not that into you and refuse to settle for second best or be second best.
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
ROBINSON IRMA
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