Saturday, December 26, 2009 on "Off The Shelf Radio" (http://www.blogtalkradio.com/denise-turney-) I interviewed Michael Markland. Michael is the author of the book "Why The Hell Can't I Find A Good Man." He is also father to four children, one of which he is raising as a single parent. She is finishing high school.
Michael was born in Jamaica and now living in New York City. I was curious to hear more about his book. One of the things I discussed with Michael was that relationships between men and women as a whole will likely not move forward much until the responsibility for the status of a relationship is balanced. I cannot count the numbers of women magazines that run articles that tell women how to keep a man from cheating (as if one person can control another person), how to get a man, how to raise sons into good men, etc.
Could just be me, but I don't seem that same wealth of articles in men's magazines. When have you ever saw a book titled "How not to cheat on your wife?" When responsibility for relationships has a balanced focus (on both people in the relationship), things might start to shift upwards. One person cannot make a two-person relationship good. Both folks have to put in their work on the relationship and continuously think of ways that they can improve and strengthen the relationship.
Michael and I also wondered aloud at whether people realize the impact that doing things to snatch away trust, etc. will have longterm on relationships, families, communities and the human landscape. What if folks continued to "play games" in adult relationships, cheat, lie, deceive, etc. until it is perceived as being stupid to trust ANYONE? What then?
When looking at things in a vacuum (as if what happens to you only impacts you) can make the way one person treats another seem like a small blimp. Yet, folks watch and mirror one another. Hence, trends. Would you want everyone in the world to treat everyone they met or were in a relationship with the way you treat the person you're dating or married to? Your parents? Grandparents? Best friends?
And is it that good men are hard to find or is it that few want to be fully responsible for their own lives? Is it that we want to make relationship mistakes then find someone else to point the finger of responsibility at?
The entire interview is up at
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/denise-turney... Blessings and Happy 2010!
Continue to advance upwards!
Denise Turney
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Off The Shelf Radio
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Wednesday, December 30th 2009 at 8:21PM
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