When two people become one in holy matrimony, that's when they have to "up" their game...so to speak. That's when the real work begins. All the things that made your spouse the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with still needs to keep happening. The flowers. The impromptu weekend getaway. A movie night. Hours of talking about nothing on the phone. Looking your best for each other. You still need to "woo" your mate after the " I Do's" are said.
I say this because men and women still need to carve out time for each other. I don't care if you call it "date night", but you can't take each other for granted. I've heard men complain about how their spouses "let themselves go" and become "frumpy." Women, complain that their other halves don't take them anywhere and they only get flowers from their spouse when he has done something wrong. The cute romantic phone calls are now a thing of the past. That s*xy voice you couldn't bare not hearing somehow just blends into your background. The constant compliments now come every now and again.
That's when communication breaks down. People seem to second guess each other. Trust erodes. Couples start taking each other for granted.
Getting married is a big decision. Sometimes, the focus is placed too much on the day rather than the journey afterwards. No one will truly recall the day in the same way. You'll have lots of photos taken to remember, you'll hear stories about things that happened that you were unaware of, and the wedding bands will remind you of the day you started your life together.
Just remember, if you want your marriage to last: marry someone you can talk with, trust your best friend, choose a partner that shares your values and beliefs, and don't forget to "woo" your spouse.
Posted By: Marsha Jones
Wednesday, January 13th 2010 at 4:03PM
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