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Black Women Don't you love Your Black Men ...When? (296 hits)

When they escort you to your car open the door close it. You really love them when they do dishes, make a meal and take his part in paying bills and handling finances of your households. Are there still Black men displaying acts of chilvary to Black women today?

During the course of the day, I find myself taking observations of Black men and Black women as couples. I see very few...[rare] Black men who open doors for their Black women. I see far less often, when Black men walk with their mate, most of them walk ahead of their mate only leaving her behind, going inside a door first and never assisting her with the door at all. They seem be be thinking little of it, or not at all. It used to be that age group might of been a factor, but I find all ages of Black men who just don't practice chilvary. I'm sure a high percent of Black women actually adore this special attention. I was so glad to see a little 4-year old boy, holding the door open for his mother and his sisters. That's as rare as moon rocks! Come! Come! Black men. Let's brush up on our skills of chilvary! Black women are still women, sure, even when we're tough...We for the most part...Love always being treated like a lady.

Posted By: MIISRAEL Bride
Saturday, February 20th 2010 at 3:02PM
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Brother Clark,
You are truly ole' skool and may the Lord continue to bless you.
Sunday, February 21st 2010 at 4:53AM
Jen Fad

I admire your comments Gentlemen Mozell and Clark, and Lady Jen. You've shown all is not lost in chilvary. We have but to be reminded from time to time.. I think I have written that quite right... I bid you thanks!
Sunday, February 21st 2010 at 10:28AM
MIISRAEL Bride

Thank you Fellow Poetess!!!
Sunday, February 21st 2010 at 8:21PM
Siebra Muhammad

THeresa! I feel you on this. We need to rectify and improve on the whole many things including chilvary! I can only agree-- your points are respectfully regarded by me. Thanks Gracious Lady.
Tuesday, March 2nd 2010 at 10:11AM
MIISRAEL Bride

We need the kind of respect given to black women from black men...no question about it. But, lets hit both sides of the coin....Say, a brother takes a white woman out for lunch or dinner....generally to almost all the time...the white woman will not order the most expensive thing on the menu and if they do will offer to help pay for the meal if not pay for the meal themselves....If that same brother takes out a nice charming Black woman...my experiences is that many times but not all the time she will order the most expensive thing on the menu and not say nothing about helping with the bill....No problem with a brother paying for a meal....But, brothers start to think that the sister is trying to abuse the brothers pocket...can't she order something that is not quite the most expensive (smile).
Tuesday, March 2nd 2010 at 10:51AM
jamal Abraham

Jamal, I think you place yourself in situation where if you anticipate your date is going to order an expensive meal, you should be prepared to pay for it unless you've made it clear to her the amount you'd like to spend. An expensive resturant means just that, the price of the meal is costly! I suggest in using chilvary this way; You will alert your date ahead of time, and let her know of your ability to pay. That's good communcation on any date. Even if you went to McDonalds, at least your date will know what to expect of you and your willingness to pay. If you like to go where you each pay for your own meal that should also be made clear in the beginning. I don't think for the most part your date would want to take advantage of you if she is one who shows intregrity. Then, I suggest you might find a different kind of woman. [Smiles]
Tuesday, March 2nd 2010 at 2:00PM
MIISRAEL Bride

Clark, that's a great comment! Peanuts on a date. Sounds like fun. You have such chilvary Sir!

Lady Taylor: You are truly nice to your date, but if you're thinking you have to give up something for a meal, I wouldn't want to get involved with the "You eat with me you gotta pay this guy!" That's a bad sign to me.
Tuesday, March 2nd 2010 at 2:05PM
MIISRAEL Bride

Ms. Shields...Sure, I'm always prepared...but always wondering how much "shock control" should I administer to my own psyche when the waitress ask " and what can I get for you Madam ?
Tuesday, March 2nd 2010 at 5:08PM
jamal Abraham

Jamal! I'm a little tickled at you. Man! You'd better make sure you take enough to pay. I suggest you skip dinner altogether, and just make it a movie! That way all you have to pay for is popcorn and a soda! Total cost approimately $20 plus gas!

Just remember to get the doors for her!...Oh, she may want extra butter on that popcorn...
That was funny to me JA! "Shock Control!".....
Wednesday, March 3rd 2010 at 10:04AM
MIISRAEL Bride