Although they said they have no secrets to their long term marriage success, Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher gave free marriage advice on Twitter on Valentine's Day 2010.
Due to their long marriage, Herbert and Zelmyra have been in the news for some time. The Craven County Board of Commissioners recognized and saluted the Fishers on November 21, 2005.
Their marriage success can give hope to other couples with separate bedrooms and to couples in an interfaith marriage. As of February 2010, Zelmyra and Herbert hold the world record of the longest marriage for a living couple.
Happy Valentine's Day! Thanks for all your support, we will do our best to answer your questions now, Herbert & Zelmyra 7:01 AM Feb 14th via web
Q1 @AdrienneAtSlu What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all? 7:02 AM Feb 14th via web
A1 With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option - or even a thought 7:04 AM Feb 14th via web
Q2 @jessbess77 How did you know your spouse was the right one for you? 7:08 AM Feb 14th via web
A2 We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life - our marriage has lasted a lifetime 7:12 AM Feb 14th via web
Q3 @SeanCPow Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage? 7:16 AM Feb 14th via web
A3 We wouldn't change a thing.There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family 7:21 AM Feb 14th via web
Q4 @LaurenHuston What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there? 7:26 AM Feb 14th via web
A4 Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner!He is never too far away, so keep the faith - when you meet him, you’ll know 7:29 AM Feb 14th via web
Q5 @caresseaudra What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received? 7:35 AM Feb 14th via web
A5 Respect, support & communicate with each other.Be faithful, honest & true.Love each other with ALL of your heart 7:37 AM Feb 14th via web
Q6 @Miss_Ink What are the most important attributes of a good spouse? 7:38 AM Feb 14th via web
A6 A hard worker & good provider.The 1920s were hard,but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us.I married a good man! 7:40 AM Feb 14th via web
Q7 @MJordanD What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?
A7 H: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax - the look on her face & clean plate made my day! 7:45 AM Feb 14th via web
A7 Z I cook dinner EVERY day. Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook! 7:43 AM Feb 14th via web
Q8 @LidiaAnain You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple? 7:46 AM Feb 14th via web
A8 “Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together 7:48 AM Feb 14th via web
Q9 @twishart What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage? 7:52 AM Feb 14th via web
A9 Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild. 7:53 AM Feb 14th via web
Q10 @MidwestPhoto Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience? 7:54 AM Feb 14th via web
A10 The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs - together. 7:57 AM Feb 14th via web
Q11 @ingwtg How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time? 7:58 AM Feb 14th via web
A11 contd: Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind. 8:01 AM Feb 14th via web
A11 H: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life 8:00 AM Feb 14th via web
Q12 @KindraTaylor At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves? 8:02 AM Feb 14th via web
A12 Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win 8:04 AM Feb 14th via web
Q13 @jar556 Is fighting important? 8:05 AM Feb 14th via web
A13 NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend - not break! 8:06 AM Feb 14th via web
Q14 @thewordwire What's the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else? 8:07 AM Feb 14th via web
A14 We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day 8:10 AM Feb 14th via web
Posted By: Richard Kigel
Wednesday, March 10th 2010 at 9:30PM
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