Some of us have grown so accustomed to counterfeit and toxic "love" that when a man that is good to you and good for you comes along, we can't see him for the gem that he is.
Some of us refuse to face our issues so we lable every man as a cheater, liar and player. Oftentimes, it's a vain attempt to deflect attention from us and our own issues.
My brothers believe that if you find a woman who truly loves and respects her father, you have a good woman on your hands.
See, some of us are not used to having positive, healthy male figures about us. We may not have ever met our biological father or perhaps we have a tumultuous relationship with him so that spills over into our social lives and interactions with men.
If we've been let down and deeply wounded by the first man in our life and never address it through therapy or however and then go into life dating and "loving" no-good men, guess what the end results will be?
So......get to know the women you meet; find out about their relationships with their fathers, brothers and how that has affected them negitively or positively and you'll know how they will relate, respect and love YOU.
If you meet her and she says things like: "There aint no good men out here...."
You need to lace up your sneaker, make like Flo Jo and run in the other direction.
If she has an overall negative and condescending (subtle or not) attitude towards men or people who she sees as beneath her, run.
If her mantra is, "A man can't do sh-- for me..." RUN!
I could go on, but I think you get the pic by now.
A woman with a love/hate or overall intransigent attitude towards men or relationships is NOT someone you should consider for love or any carnal activities.
These types of relationships will leave you drained emotionally and sometimes financially; you'll walk away feeling depressed and battered.
No, you don't have the magic personality (or "stick") to make them better women or change their persepctive, only THEY can do that.
No, you should NOT volunteer to be the band-aid for their former boyfriend's inflicted wounds.
No, they're not "nice" girls who are just in need of "real love" or a "strong man" in order to change.
And no, all the gifts and money you dole out will not be able to buy their loyalty, trust or respect.
Peace and love to all.......
Posted By: DAVID JOHNSON
Monday, September 27th 2010 at 6:50PM
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