By Black Love And Marriage.com on October 14, 2011
In A Woman's Point Of View, Black Women
By MrsSays
Look at her. She’s gotten her hair done and made sure her nails have gotten their proper treatment too. Consideration has gone into her clothes and she switched out her handbag to coordinate. She looks and feels good. She has her fair share of responsibilities but she gets it all in. She takes time for her interests and appreciates the value of her social life. She obviously loves herself. No wonder your husband loves her too.
Before you get into your fighting stance let me clue you in…the other woman is YOU! Before you were married and before the babies and the bills and parent-teacher conferences she was YOU! Before you start expressing how much of my mind I must have lost if I think you have the time/money take a look at a few reasons you need to love the other woman again.
1) For you: If is counter-intuitive but you can’t be the wife, mother, friend or employee that you want to be if you take any time to energize yourself. It is pretty easy to roll your eyes at your husband and yell at your kids when you are tired and mourning your former life. Even the Proverbs 31 woman took time to share her talents for her own sake.
Proverbs 10: 22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple
It is only right that you reserve some of the intellect, know-how and general flyness you share with your family with yourself. You deserve it.
2) For your kids: Your kids should be the reason instead of the excuse for you to invest in yourself. With all of the negative images out there the last thing they need to think is that a wife and mother should be a martyr and self-care is reserved for the single. Modeling behavior is the best way to teach a skill. The best way to show your children how a wife and mother should be treated is to treat yourself well.
3) For your marriage: Marriage is not 50/50. It requires 100% of both of you. Your husband loves ALL of you including the other you. Giving your true self is a precious and valuable gift. Continuing to preserve and cultivate yourself will insure that neither of you is clueless as to what to do with yourselves and your relationship after the children are grown. Do both of you a favor and make sure he experiences the best of both worlds in you.
Do you make taking care of yourself a priority? Do you think it is feasible if you have a young family?
About Mrs Says: 11 years ago I became a partner in this thing call marriage. My middle school sweetheart became my husband and I started to become someone else. This isn’t a bad thing…as a matter of fact it is a very GOOD thing but either way it is a different thing.The point of MrsSays is to celebrate the world of Marriage from a woman’s point of view and to express all of the ups and downs, challenges and triumphs in the life of a married woman. I encourage you to be the the best YOU in your marriage, speak your mind and hopefully grow with me. Read more from MrsSays at
http://mrssays.com/ Lyrics from the legendary Nina Simone:
The other woman finds time to manicure her nails
The other woman is perfect where her rival fails
And she's never seen with pin curls in her hair
The other woman enchantes her clothes with French perfume
The other woman keeps fresh cut flowers in each room
There are never toys that's scattered everywhere
And when her baby comes to call
He'll find her waiting like a lonesome queen
Cos when she's by his side
It's such a change from old routine
But the other woman will always cry herself to sleep
The other woman will never have his love to keep
And as the years go by the other woman
Will spend her life alone
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Saturday, October 15th 2011 at 5:47PM
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