My dilemmas with my ex-wife continue. Recently she filed a motion in a Charlotte, Mecklenburg County, North Carolina court asking that her monthly child support obligations be reduced. Currently she still owes me over $10,000 from a child support Order effective September 1, 2008. Back then it was established in North Carolina at $781 per month. New Jersey automatically does a cost of living adjustment every two years for child support. It is now January of 2012 and there has never been a Cost of Living adjustment done on this case. In 2003, she lived in New Jersey and I was paying her $1,442 per month ($360 per week!!!!!) for child support and she was making $40,000 a year more than me. She's asking the presiding Judge in North Carolina to reduce her monthly child support obligation to $675 per month effective February 1, 2012. She also asked to receive a $3,712 credit to be applied towards the already long overdue child support arrears of $10,000.
Part of this credit is based on a $1,600 per year stipulation that was awarded to me in July 2004 by a New Jersey court to compensate me for having to travel to Charlotte to visit our son Justin. Before they relocated to Charlotte, I'd fly to New Jersey and stay with my mother for the visitations. Going to Charlotte would include the extra costs of a rental car, motel room and restaurant meals for each trip. My ex-wife claims that the $1,600 credit lasted two years longer than it should have. What she fails to remember or else purposely forgets is that she completely shut off all telephone communications between me and our son in violation of that same New Jersey Court Order.
So I informed her in 2006 that since she refused to let me speak to our son on the telephone, I would be utilizing my visitation rights and fly to Charlotte to see him in person. Then she informed me that I would not be allowed to see him even though I had been granted that privilege by several Court Orders. Due to her obstinance, I couldn't take advantage of that $1,600 and now she wants a North Carolina court to award this money (from a New Jersey Court Order) back to her. How RIDICULOUS and LUDICROUS is this request?
In July 2005, I paid for airline tickets for our son and they were never used because she refused to put him on the flight to Denver. Worse, my attorney called me on my cell phone on the way to the airport to pick up our son. She didn't even have the human decency to tell me he wasn't on that plane and was going to purposely allow me to run around the airport in Denver in a frantic and panic, wondering where and trying to find my young son. My ex-wife also fails to remember that I was forced to fork out $2,600 in July 2006 for three last minute round trip airline tickets because she refused to put our son on a plane for a court ordered visitation. I flew to Charlotte on a red eye flight from Denver and met her in the airport to get our son. Then immediately boarded a return flight back to Colorado. I should have only paid an extra $40 for an unaccompanied minor (escort) fee. Then in July 2007, I had to return to Charlotte for an emergency court hearing because she refused again to send our son to Colorado. She forgets that I had to pay for my round trip airline tickets to travel to Charlotte as well as a last minute $800 one way ticket to Denver for our son in first class because the economy coach was all sold out. Again I should have only paid for one round trip ticket for our son to come and visit me that was already court ordered.
Mind you all of these shenanigans come from a very intelligent woman who already knows how to manipulate the system.
Keep in mind also that because of massive and ongoing errors in calculations from the Union County, New Jersey court system, I was illegally forced to overpay her about $58,000 in child support that she knows she should have never received. The money was either garnished from my paychecks at work or else erroneously intercepted by the IRS when I filed my taxes. Even though she knew it was wrong, she never offered to give any of that money back. Instead she seizes every single opportunity that she can conjure up to financially hurt me even more.
A few years ago because we were not getting along she offered to pay me $20,000 for my personal property of tools, books, photographs, rodeo memorabilia, clothing, coin collection, dishes etc., etc., etc., etc. that she either claimed or maliciously threw into the garbage. Her exact boastful words were, "I can write you a check for that amount because I already have it." Needless to say I have never received that check in the mail.
Included in her motion in North Carolina is a sworn statement that her current yearly income is $86,220. She was making that amount in 2004 before she left New Jersey and hadn't been promoted to a managerial position where she is now. I know she realizes that because of owing child support arrears her licenses and career are in jeopardy on a daily basis. A rational and logical person wouldn't have to be forced by a Court Order to take care of the obligations for their own biological child at the risk of being terminated. She is required by law to disclose that she owes child support and is in arrears but refuses to honor that obligation. But not her, she would rather continue to cause me as much grief as humanly possible in hopes that I'll fail financially because I was awarded primary custody of our son. Pretty sad.
As a church going Christian woman, one would have to think that some of these things would bother a person's own conscience. She reads and studies the Bible on a regular basis, but ignores the scriptures that talk about the love of money as the root of all evil.
I'd encourage anyone to read my non-fiction book "Justin: A Father's Fight for His Son". It was published in September 2009 and talks about the drama and trauma that I endured just to have a relationship with my own biological son against a mother who was bound and determined to make me give up and walk away.
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Posted By: Abe Morris
Sunday, January 29th 2012 at 2:42AM
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