By Black Love And Marriage.com on April 26, 2012
In Communication,Conflict Management
By Zynnyme Kelly Higdon & Miranda Palmer posted Apr 25th 2012 3:19PM
Don't let social media interfere with your love life!
I asked one of the people about the status and their response was, "Oh I don't want to talk about it." Really? You don't want to talk about it but you want everyone to see it? Sometimes people put this on their profile as a way to dig at their partner (see the above on not fighting).
5. Flirt offline. It can be fun to flirt on your partners' profile, but don't let it stop there! It is even more meaningful and lasting to have fun in person, to show love and affection, instead of just in the virtual world where you are safe and it is harder to feel rejected.
6. Password Protection. This is a choice, but consider having boundaries with your passwords. Depending on the level of commitment in your relationship, it may not be wise to share your password with your partner. Your Dog Could Be Sabotaging Your Relationship VIDEO
Technology security is important and often people use the same passwords for multiple accounts (not you right?) Giving your password out could be giving them access to your bank accounts and other information. If you are newly dating or on the rocks, reconsider how much access you want the person to have.
7. Have separate personal pages. You are your own person. I have seen couples share the same page and it communicates that this couple is stuck together like glue and they are surrendering their individuality. I have seen that the 1 page per couple comes from a controlling partner who doesn't want their partner to have a separate account and then they believe that they have some sort of control over communication.
Heads up! Even if that was your great idea, your partner can still have a separate page and hide it from you. You may have many reasons for having one page, and if that works for you, great, but I would suggest that the majority of us should have our own pages, friend our partner, so they can see our page and leave it at that. 5 Ways We Sabotage Our Relationships EXPERT
8. End it for good. If you break up and it is tough, unfriend and block your ex. Checking on them repeatedly will only add to your suffering. I heard a philosopher once say that if aliens were to come down and study humans by reading Facebook, they would be given a very distorted perception of reality. Remember this: when it comes to relationships, there is a beginning and an ending.
If you are going to end something in reality, end it virtually as well. For some couples that isn't possible and I have seen divorced couples stay friends online because they have kids and want to share what is happening with their children when the other parent isn't there. That is great! But, if that isn't you, then set a boundary and limit how painful this has to be for you.
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