How to Recover From Divorce and Breakups (314 hits)

One of the most difficult, upsetting and challenging situations that one will ever experience revolves around the ending of a relationship. Divorce and breakups create intense feelings, so learning how to deal with these situations is important. We all go through breakups in our dating lives while searching for that special someone. The fact that it takes time to find the right mate means that there will be some misses along the way.

It may be that your marriage is coming to an end or that certain someone, who you thought was a potential spouse, isn’t working out as planned. Are you going through this today? If you’re like most people, you’re so upset, saddened and dismayed that you can hardly see straight.

If your current relationship has truly run its course, you simply must learn to let it go and move yourself forward. But part of our personality refuses to accept change and defeat. Trying to hold on to something that, in reality, no longer exists is like trying to grab sunlight with your bare hands – you will simply end up frustrated and exhausted.

As I always like to say to people who refuse to let go, your future is not behind you. Looking back only intensifies the emotional pain, interferes with your ability to move forward and keeps you stuck and fixated in the past.

For those who find it impossible to let go, therapy is often an integral part of the accepting and healing process. Most people, however, seem to find their own way through this. They trudge through with help from others who have successfully found their way to the other side of this painful human loss.

Lifescript has a great article about how to deal with a breakup called 6 Tips to Survive the Split. Three other helpful tips I found from helpguide.org are: ...

Spend time with people who support, value and energize you.
As you consider who to reach out to, choose wisely. Surround yourself with people who are positive and truly listen to you. It’s important that you feel free to be honest about what you’re going through, without worrying about being judged, criticized or told what to do.

Get outside help if you need it.
If reaching out to others doesn’t come naturally, consider seeing a counselor or joining a support group. The most important thing is that you have at least one place where you feel comfortable opening up.

Cultivate new friendships.
If you feel like you have lost your social network along with the divorce or breakup, make an effort to meet new people. Join a networking group or special interest club, take a class, get involved in community activities, or volunteer at a school, place of worship, or other community organization.

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Posted By: Jeni Fa
Friday, May 16th 2014 at 9:14PM
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