Steps To Take Before The "I Do!"
Well this week I devoted to love and romance. I wrote several poems addressing love and relationships. Now comes the big question... What steps are needed before vowing "I Do? "
I believe in order for a perfect unified union in Holy Matrimony a few details need apply. We have to remember the old script... "How can two walk together, unless they first agree? " Amos3
Often times we haphazardly believe that just our agreement into marriage should bring about a wonderful union. Nope, we missed a few other important details. Agreement (Harmony)on any level whether that be in a friendship, business or romantic relationship must be met.
Let's take a look at a sample business relationship to further derive harmony. You just begun a business relationship with an old associate of yours. Your business partner has some really great ideas and seems highly motivated. You felt as if you had made such a great choice in choosing a leader like yourself. As time passes though you notice his business practices just are not the same as yours. Maybe he dips a little off the top profit one day and dismissed it as just a small offense. When you approached his behavior to make a remedy to the situation he always seemed to lessen your principles regarding the matter. Since he is such a genius in business you continue your relationship with small resistance. Soon years later, your business is now under investigation and you stand to lose everything you worked so hard for. This is an example of breaks in harmony. Years earlier you received your red warning sign but you dismissed it by thinking time would change the man. The man is the man already.. Take notice now and not after bankruptcy happens.
So what exactly does harmony and agreement means? It means before plunging into your deep sea of romance you should always check the merchandise (fruit) out before committing to buy it. Harmony in spirit, mind and soul. Basically harmony on three different levels.
Many people have learned and practiced very well the art of mouthing words and their hearts could be miles away. The only clear way to combat any unnecessary turmoil is to observe and watch. Being Watchful should be most high on your list.
Let's take for example a young woman and man planning a wedding. The two may have been courting for a year or so before deciding to plan their big day.
What important factors do you think needs to be examined before the big day?
Harmony and Agreement! (A duck is a duck because of its talk, its walk and its actions..same holds true to a person who doesn't have the same spirit as you)
Harmony and Agreement on major things. If you don't want children and your soon to be desires some.. There is a break in harmony. If your passion is for spreading the gospel and your soon to be doesn't desire that.. There is a break in harmony. If your heart is on family 1st and your partner is on business 1st.. There is a break in harmony. If your ways are mild and even tempered but your partner is more of the fly off the handle.. There is a break in harmony. If you believe in charity starts at home and your partner doesn't.. There is a break in harmony. If you live a quiet life one void of drama and your partner seems to attract it.. There is a break in harmony. If you love family interactions and your partner doesn't.. There is a break in harmony. If you attend church and your partner is not willing.. There is a break in harmony. If you like to save and have money in the bank and your partner is opposite.. There is a break in harmony.
The lovely list can indeed go on and on but I have narrowed just a few down. To some these issues may seem small but to others who have experienced this.. These are red caution flags. These details could cost someone years of torment in their heart. These details could literally crush the heart and spirit of someone. These details could very well led to despair and pain in heart and mind.
GOD desires for us to live joyful, content and whole.. Not miserable, sorrowful and bitter. So make sure before the "I Do" there are no major breaks in harmony.
Posted By: nifeesia harris
Wednesday, September 3rd 2014 at 11:23PM
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