Home Invites Members Groups Events Careers Videos News Photos Blogs Polls Singles Forums Chat
Home > Blogs > Post Content

Used But Not Abused (3285 hits)

Things are meant to be used, taken care of and put back in its place. This same concept should apply to people and relationships. Healthy relationships are built within a cycle of give and take, not take, take, take some more and then walk away without giving of our self or throwing the person or relationship to the side feeling taken advantage of until it is time to be abused again.

People like to be needed but not taken advantage of and they react when they feel misused. I think we all become defensive or distant when someone mistakes our kindness for a weakness. We feel violated, disrespected, and sometimes vengeful when someone treats us in the wrong way. So it is only natural that others feel the same way about the way that they are treated.

We should always treat people in the same way that we would like for them to treat us. It is much easier to respect someone that respects us, love someone who loves us, take care of those who take care of us, reach those who reach us, touch those who touch us, use those who use us, but also abuse those who abuse us. We must do our part in being a major part of healthy relationships with others.

We must share the best parts of ourselves without demanding something in return from people, and we will soon find out that others are willing to use the parts of us that we offer in ways that are not violating, disrespectful, vindictive, harmful or destructive. Using someone does not always have to be looked at in a negative way unless we chose to look at it in that way at all time.

Only use people in the way that you would like for them to use you.

Subscribe to the Seeing Growth Inspiration Reminder by Email

Emmanuel Brown of SeeingGrowth.com
Posted By: Emmanuel Brown
Thursday, April 9th 2009 at 2:30AM
You can also click here to view all posts by this author...

Report obscenity | post comment
Share |
Please Login To Post Comments...

Not sure if this was coined by MLK himself, but he used to say:

If you can help someone as they're going along
If you can heal someone with word or song
If you can show someone who they're traveling wrong
Then your life has meaning

If you notice, there is no greater pleasure derived than doing something for someone else. Selflessness is the way to happiness.

Saturday, April 11th 2009 at 12:04PM
so sorry, I meant to say..."I ALWAYS GIVE CREDIT..."

Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
I never not give credit for any and everyone who looks out for themseles first in this game of trying to be happy,but I am not about being unhappy to make someone else happy. This is why i give someone one time to abuse me physically. And, it is my belief that mental abuse is far, far much worst and longer lasting.

When it comes to my grand children, I may give them more chances than anyone else(smile) but I have not had to go there yet and they are from almost 19 to 5 years old...
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
Please Login To Post Comments...

More From This Author
I Am Royalty: Profiles In Black History
Resources for Black Youth and Adults to checkout!
Who Will Support Us?
I Am Royalty: Profiles In Black History (Volumes 1 and 2)
Profiles In Black History
Profiles In Black History
Brandy Adamson Black Women Making History
Michael Stagg Black Men Making History
Forward This Blog Entry!
Blogs Home

(Advertise Here)
Who's Online
>> more | invite 
Black America Resources
100 Black Men of America

Black America's Political Action Committee (BAMPAC)

Black America Study

Black America Web

CNN Black In America Special

NUL State of Black America Report

Most Popular Bloggers
deacon ron gray has logged 141998 blog subscribers!
tanisha laverne grant has logged 43020 blog subscribers!
agnes levine has logged 35770 blog subscribers!
harry watley has logged 18062 blog subscribers!
gregory boulware, esq. has logged 14401 blog subscribers!
>> more | add 
Latest Jobs
Principal Foresight Researcher with Mercedes-Benz Research & Development North America, Inc. in Sunnyvale, CA.
Music Teacher or Performing Arts Teacher for Public Montessori Charter School with Hill View Montessori Charter Public School in Haverhill, MA.
Senior Manager, Diversity & Inclusion with The Lemon Perfect Company in Remote, US.
Software Engineer (Remote) with MoveOn.org in New York, NY.
Virginia Director with Chesapeake Climate Action Network in Richmond, VA.
>> more | add