What Makes a Man?
November 23, 2010
by Eric Payne
Is a man determined by…
His swagger?
The clothes he wears?
The way he answers (or doesn’t answer) questions?
The shoes he wears?
The car(s) he drives?
The fact that he doesn’t care about his shoes or car(s)?
The fact that he does?
How much money he makes?
How much money he doesn’t?
The house he owns or the crib he rents?
The fact that he might not own or rent a home for whatever reason?
How many degrees he has?
Whether or not he finished high school and/or college?
How much he keeps to himself?
How well he keeps it all to himself?
How s*xily he smolders?
How ferocious he can be when angry?
How calm he is in the face of a storm?
How s*xy his mind might be?
How he deals with having no one to turn to?
How he acts like it all makes sense even when he knows in his heart it doesn’t?
How good he is with his hands, in a fight and on her body?
How faithful he is, or is not?
How big that thing is, or isn’t?
How good he is in bed?
How good he is out of bed?
How handy he is with a set of tools?
His ability to pay the right person to get the job done?
How fast he jumps up to take out the trash when asked?
How much he loves his mama without being a mama’s boy?
How much he loves you?
How much he needs to be saved from himself?
The fact that he’s to dumb to know he needs to be “saved” or “changed” for the “better”?
How much he loves his kids?
How he’s planned for the future?
How he lives in the present?
How much he loves God, or doesn’t love Him?
What man, not in the movies or singing and/or rapping about himself in some song, can consider being authentic while trying to achieve all of the above? Rather than spending his time chasing pipe dreams and fronting, shouldn’t he just do his best to be his best, whatever that may be? Are all these conditions (and so many more) self-imposed or does society place them on men’s shoulders?
Author of the now infamous, My Wife Is NOT My Friend (on Facebook), Eric talks about being a father and a husband on his blog, Makes Me Wanna Holler – Man, Dad, Husband. You can follow him on Twitter or find him chopping it up on his Facebook Page. He is the author of I See Through Eyes, a book of poetry and short stories. In his “spare time” Eric reviews autos and writes relationship articles for Atlanta-based J’Adore Magazine.
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