Ok, I just want to say that I write some unique things at times and I ask some of the weirdest questions all for the purpose of entertainment. However, today I want to share a story with you and get your opinions on this situation because the basis of this story touched my heart:
In the town I grew up in, we pretty much live the simple life. It’s a comfortable cove like town that sits on the edge of a river and life there pretty much rolls by just as smooth as that river. But I am compelled to tell you about a story that recently happened there that almost left me in tears. There was a lady in my small town that was diagnosed with liver disease. Now, if you don’t know, liver disease is any disturbance of liver function that causes illness. The liver is responsible for many critical functions within the body and should it become diseased or injured, the loss of those functions can cause significant damage to the body. Prior to the lady be diagnosed with the disease she had gotten married to the love of her life, whom she lived with every ounce of love her heart could contain. Once the effects of the disease took almost total control of her body, she told her husband that since she could no longer do the things that could please him, she expressed to him that she understood his needs and that it was “ok to find someone whom he could enjoy from time to time, since she knew a man needed certain things to keep him happy “. So she granted him her approval to go be with other woman. She felt that it was no need for him to suffer, since she was the one stricken with the disease. So the man over the years did what (he felt) he had to do. The couple was married for 28 years, but a couple days ago the lady passed from the disease. Truly it was a sad moment, but what made it worse than sad was the obituary message left by her husband.
I’ve never read an obituary message like this in the newspaper before, in the normal structure it named living relatives, there locations etc. In the last couple sentences of the message were words from her husband apologizing. He apologized for all the wrong he had done, he stated that he loved her, he wrote about how he never meant do anything to hurt her and he showed remorse for all his transgression. At the end of the message he stated that he loved her and that she would be missed.
Now, I have my own thoughts about this but I’d love to hear your views on what you think about this story.
1.) Do you think that it was right for her husband to do the things he did? I mean she did give him permission and if that was something they agreed upon in their marriage, that truly is there business, right?
2.) Under the same circumstances, would you approve of your lover, wife, husband or significant other going out and meeting their needs since you no longer had the capacity to?
3.) What do you think of the husband’s obituary message?
Posted By: Shakeim Edmonds
Saturday, June 16th 2012 at 12:54PM
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