A husband who emotionally abuses his wife engages in mental and verbal tactics to keep her under his control, according to the Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness. Evaluate your significant other’s behavior to determine whether you should seek help from a doctor or mental health professional before the actions escalate into spousal abuse that involves physical violence.
Control
An emotionally abusive husband may attempt to make you feel subservient to keep you trapped in the marriage, notes the Police Department’s Domestic Violence Division of the Metropolitan Government of Nashville and Davidson County, Tennessee. A controlling spouse may assert dominance by controlling the finances and giving you a small allowance, making all of the household decisions and treating you like a servant. He may also limit your opportunities to see friends and family members, and prevent you from getting a job so that you are emotionally and economically dependent on him.
Belittling
Having your husband insult and demoralize you in public and private may be a sign of emotional abuse. Brigham Young University’s Women’s Services observes that your husband may trivialize your intellect, interests, education and achievements to make you feel unworthy of his affection, or make you believe that you wouldn’t be able to survive without him. He may also call you names or humiliate you in front of friends by pointing out your faults or reacting sarcastically when you offer your opinion.
Jealousy
The Mayo Clinic notes that extreme jealousy may also be an emotional abuse sign. An abusive husband may ask for detailed accounts of everything you do when you’re apart, consider any interaction with another man an act of flirtation, frequently accuse you of infidelity or act possessive of you when you’re out in public. You may be an emotional abuse victim if you’re apprehensive whenever a man looks or smiles at you in public because you fear that your spouse will read too much into it.
Intimidation
The Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness suggests evaluating how frightened you are of your partner to determine possible emotional abuse. You may feel timid or apprehensive when your partner is around, because you fear you’ll trigger his wrath. An emotionally abusive spouse may use threats of physical violence, statements that he’ll end the marriage or unpredictable, emotional outbursts to unsettle you, so you’ll be too afraid to assert yourself.
Denial
If your husband is emotionally abusive, he may use excuses and accusations to make you believe that his behavior is your fault, notes the Help Guide website. Your spouse may claim that your ignorance, mistakes, secrecy or flirtation was the reason for a recent outburst. He may indicate that your stupidity requires him to control all of your finances and control all of the family decisions. The Help Guide also states that an abusive husband may deny the severity of his hurtful actions, trivialize your reactions or blame his behavior on stress or a bad day.
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Posted By: DAVID JOHNSON
Sunday, December 30th 2012 at 1:44PM
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