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A Positive Image of Marriage & Family
Next to every great man is a great woman. This is no coincidence. As humans we still validate one another. We do that by whom we choose to keep around us, whom we elevate with our words, with whom we decide to spend time, who we cut down with hate, who we invite to the party, and ultimately whom we decide to have children with.
Who do we champion in our lives?
We are all full of potential. Throughout history the common denominator underscoring a person’s great accomplishments was simply a person standing by their side to encourage the individual into their greatest self.
Imagine the youth with no one around to champion who they are. Is it still possible for them to become their greatest self? Sure. But are the odds better for the young person with a strong and honest support system?
Men are the same way. Many of us reach our greatest self under the nurturing of life given to us by our most trusted partner.
- She speaks life into us.
- She kisses passion into us.
- She loves through the layers of dysfunction, because she knows the core of greatness that lies underneath.
- She loves the man as he’s unable to love himself because he lacks the perspective she does.
And a woman who values herself and is aware of her power also invests that power into a worthy man. The man who realizes that it is he who has been chosen by a her, a woman of such power, then can choose to rise into the person she sees inside of him. Or, he can reject it.
It’s the crux of frustration in millions of relationships. She sees the greatness in him that he cannot see in himself. She commits herself to the potential rather than the reality. He fails to live up to her image and is caught in the cycle of perceived failure. He eventually feels hopeless and resentful to the pedestal she has placed him on.
There’s a difference between a cheerleader and a quarterback.
Who is playing which role? Millions of women resentfully take up the role of quarterback in a relationship, while still searching for another another quarterback to champion. It can be another vicious cycle.
Most men need the the validation of their women. If for no other reason than the fact that we truly value and care about how you see us in the world. We want our women to be proud of who we are and what we represent – we value your opinion.
A man could have all the potential in the world but still be left to wither and die without someone there to nurture his spirit, ambition, and intentions. Don’t get me wrong, if a man falters along his path of life, the blame most likely lies directly at his own feet. But are the odds better for the man who has the supportive wisdom of a woman at his side?
Ladies, we could all use a cheerleader.
Fellas, we still have to give her something to cheer for.
BMWK, are you living up to the challenge of your role?
About the author
Isom Kuade wrote 45 articles on this blog.
Isom Kuade is a father, entrepreneur, and wannabe lifestyle creator currently writing out of Austin, TX. He left corporate comforts with a goal to find, recognize, and work with the next generation's most motivated and talented. He writes with his wife at pancakesandcider.com on marriage, entrepreneurship, culture and parenthood. He brokers residential and business services at iwondermanagement.com. He's also convinced that 2015 is the year everything changes for the better.
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