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Scandalous-Don't you let that Heffa in My House If I'm Not Home (554 hits)

-To my fine single sisters-

What is it about our ethnic culture that makes us shun you? If you are fine and single ya'll catch hell!

Other sisters don't trust you with or around their man and don't want to be your friend. In my short lifetime I've seen Black women forced out of jobs, schools, apartments, churchs, and even families. Their only crime...being too fine. We make movies about our fear of you as if you were a monster.

Sure, this is an issue that many other ethnic groups deal with as well....but as a Black MAN, please help me understand this issue.

What is it about YOU that makes other women hate/fear you?

Or

What is it about the fine, single sister that makes you not want that heffa in your home?

Is she really that scandalous..."I'll take your man"?

Don't hold back...I really want to understand?

Posted By: Dr. Ahmad Glover
Tuesday, August 5th 2008 at 11:30PM
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As a single woman myself, I find that I do intimidate men and women. I am considered too dominating or strong minded. Which nothing is wrong with it but alot of it is a mis-understanding. I consider myself to be very organized and multi-talented for reasons that it is only me. I have to provide for my daughter, I am the sole provider, housekeeper, taxi-driver, event coordinator, schedule juggler, cook, handyman, auto mechanic (to some extent), protector of my home, and mom. This is why I am the way I am because I did not have the choice of giving up on marriage, and being a parent only when I thought it was fine we with me. I refused to allow myself those choices and did what I had to do to raise my child while providing for her. It is only me no one else. I did not have a man around to take the trash out, fix the plumbing or kill a spider in my home, its just me. I don't want to forget the question, but yes other women are against me because of what I have to do. For some reason as well society has a stigma on women that they should be married by a certain age, meaning they have the mind set of a woman is suppose to have a man, with this I feel that they think I may go after their man. Not so!!!
Friday, August 8th 2008 at 12:20PM
Cheryl Hendrix