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a SINGLE dilemma? What is a Single dilemma? In this case, I am referring as why are more choosing more often to living a single life. There are millions of singles living alone yet, singles can come in several patterns and lifestyles of living. . Singles who live alone . Singles who live alone with children . Singles who have a live-in partner-- intimate Singles who have a live in partner—non-intimate . Singles who have children -- live-in partner-intimate Singles who have children, --live -in partner-non intimate There are other cases of singles too. I personally state I do not approve of living together in an intimate relationship as a single individual where s*xual involvement is present.. I feel strongly one should be married. Let me however; focus your attention on how greatly the single rates are growing today. What are the reasons many are remaining single? Sometimes, I conduct and research topics I write about, on this particular one-- I found none. Most of my sources provided dating services for singles, or meeting and interaction with other singles. It was quite a dilemma for me because my research involved what and why are more choices more deciding to remain or staying single. Again, I found almost nothing. When I conducted my own more personal research I was presented with several reasons like ones I have listed here: I have chose to stay single, because I feel that dating is unsafe. I wait and pray God will send someone for me. I don’t trust men, or women to be honest about their s*xual history. I choose to remain single for persona and religious reasons, to devote my time to God. I am a divorcee, I choose to remain single. There were many others as well. Some were a combinations of the ones listed. Has the single individual lost trust in marrying? Many of course, simply do not want the commitment. Other singles enjoy the independence of self-sufficiency. For example, no one to answer to, no one to consult with as in making and living out their own choices, and the solace of doing it for themselves. A few stated in my small research, I just don’t require the drama of marrying. I, being a single and a parent have related in most of these reasons. I remain single but, I am Pro-marriage. Are you one who has made a choice to be part in a SINGLE dilemma and to remain single? Share your reason (s) if you choose. My last personal advice; be careful in meeting and dating today. I recommend you take it slowly, look for signs of trust in an individual, and always trust in the inner voice of God 's Spirit to direct your path. Love and Harmony, MIISRAEL These web sites contained helpful information about safe single living and dating: www.unmarried.org target=_blank>www.single-america.com

Posted By: MIISRAEL Bride
Saturday, October 11th 2008 at 11:57AM
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For me this single thing absolutely sucks. I would prefer to be in a relationship, but I am not willing to be with just anyone all for the sake of avoiding being single. I posted a blog about men, the lies and the games that some have a tendency to play. I'm a professional, beautiful and educated woman. I'm am single by choice at this point, but I am open to the possibilities. For me it is nothing more beautiful than the love that is shared between a man and a woman, it is that bond. I have been wearing the pants and the skirt for so long, but I prefer to just wear the skirt (for one because I look so cute in them :) ) In the mean time, I will just have to wait until the almighty allows my path to cross with the man that he created just for me.
Saturday, October 11th 2008 at 12:06PM
Marquerite Burgess

So, I understand that you would love to be involved in a commitment, but you choose to remain single in waiting for God to direct your mate to come. I found that most common in my personal research. Many, are waiting for a God's guidance in choosing a love mate. I think it's a perfect reason to remain single. May your waiting and patience bring you beatuful love as well. Thanks for sharing Marquerite.
Saturday, October 11th 2008 at 12:25PM
MIISRAEL Bride

Amen to what Marguerite says..I just plan on getting myself together so when Mr. Right appears..I can be a blessing in his life as well.
Saturday, October 11th 2008 at 8:22PM
Marta Fernandez

E, your response is thought provoking, and I am not disputing you're making your own options, surely I detect you feel no options are available to you that are worthy of of you. Which is somewhat of a choice. As far as choosing to live, one can choose to live or die. How, can one choose to die by not living each day to it's fullest potential, or one can choose to die by suicidal means. Sometimes choices are not always listed as a.b.c. and so on but in everything there are only two answers. They are yes, or no. Maybe is undeciviseness. I know you are a woman of quality, and since no option is available you as I see it are choosing to remain single finding none worthy of you. I believe it's what you're saying. Anyway, that the way I see you view it, you remain single not having options to do anything else. Marta, you take a similiar approach to Marguerite, you are preparing yourself to wait and become a blessing of a loving relationship. I am choosing to thank you both for your responses.
Sunday, October 12th 2008 at 8:39AM
MIISRAEL Bride

I am married but I am still an individual, therefore, I am single in a way. If you are "single" but have relationship with God, you are married to your God and therefore never "single" or alone. Making the choice NOT TO CHOOSE is in itself a choice. If given the choice to die asleep or awake, it's not a choice because we are not promised our next breath, and all are dust and will return there, how is up to God, so it's His choice even if YOU choose to take it (suicide) because He knows you would before you ever were.
I get what you are saying M, being single is an awesome choice. God IS. One God, in three parts, FSHG. Though single, you are not alone. I pray that if you never marry in this life, you know still that you are the bride of Christ, and that is the ULTI-MATE!
Sunday, October 12th 2008 at 11:23AM
Lesley Knight

Lesley, you've summed that up nicely, the ULTIMATE choice in a SINGLE dilemma. Married to Christ. Amen. Blessing for your responsible and spirtual filled comment.
Sunday, October 12th 2008 at 5:11PM
MIISRAEL Bride