Used But Not Abused

Things are meant to be used, taken care of and put back in its place. This same concept should apply to people and relationships. Healthy relationships are built within a cycle of give and take, not take, take, take some more and then walk away without giving of our self or throwing the person or relationship to the side feeling taken advantage of until it is time to be abused again.

People like to be needed but not taken advantage of and they react when they feel misused. I think we all become defensive or distant when someone mistakes our kindness for a weakness. We feel violated, disrespected, and sometimes vengeful when someone treats us in the wrong way. So it is only natural that others feel the same way about the way that they are treated.

We should always treat people in the same way that we would like for them to treat us. It is much easier to respect someone that respects us, love someone who loves us, take care of those who take care of us, reach those who reach us, touch those who touch us, use those who use us, but also abuse those who abuse us. We must do our part in being a major part of healthy relationships with others.

We must share the best parts of ourselves without demanding something in return from people, and we will soon find out that others are willing to use the parts of us that we offer in ways that are not violating, disrespectful, vindictive, harmful or destructive. Using someone does not always have to be looked at in a negative way unless we chose to look at it in that way at all time.

Only use people in the way that you would like for them to use you.


Subscribe to the Seeing Growth Inspiration Reminder by Email


Emmanuel Brown of SeeingGrowth.com