Do you think getting Married is overrated?

Daniel and Mozell, I totally agree. Speaking as a married woman...a proud married woman...it's is not overrated. It requires Godly wisdom and obedience (among other things) so that each person understands their responsibilities to God, to each other and to their children if they have any. My marriage is like a Holy Corporation where God is the Chairman of the Board, CEO and CFO, my husband is the COO (President), I am the Executive Vice-President and our children are lower level managers.

And this does not a slave to my husband make. I'm just a woman who has taken the time to study my role as a wife (help mate) and I take it very seriously. My husband is the head of my household...not the ruler, but the head. God rules, we follow. My husband knows his role as husband and father and takes his responsibilities to me and our children quite seriously. It ain't always been easy, but it has and will always be worth it.

Besides, it's rewarding and awesome to be responsble for the matters of the heart of your husband or wife. It's an honor. We don't always get everything right and we've bumped our heads along the way, but we're still working it...thank you, Jesus. My primary life role is to praise God...to give Him all the glory. Everything and everyone else is secondary. It helps when both husband and wife understand that nothing and no one comes BEFORE God, not even each other.

Marriage is a lot of responsibility, but it sure is awesome. I'm thanking God for my husband now. Hmm...mmm....GOOD! Ooh, Jesus!!!! Hallelujah, Lord!!!! If you marry the right one, your worst day with him will still be better than your best day without him. . ;-)

-Blessings...

Do all Black people think alike? Most, but not all

Marriage will soon be a thing of the past. Christianity is a dying fantasy and folks from all walks of life are starting to recognize that most matrimonies were holy -- and therefore, losing interest. Other ethnic groups have formed something called "Free Love" -- a social movement opposed to marriage. It's hard for Blacks to break away from what they've been taught and think freely. So it may take another couple of hundred years for "us" -- but we'll soon follow.

Craig, I freely accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. LOL. You're so funny.

Blessings...

I was directed to this post from one that wwas posted by Karen -- Is Marriage a Thing of the past?

This question is slightly different. The answer speaks to the health of our families and communities. The truth is that "marriage is underrated" in our Black communities today. Here is what I mean. We are looking at a generation that is less wealthy than the previous generation. Divorce rates are up; school dropout rates are up; seventy percent of our children go to school from single parent households headed by women; unemployment is higher in our communities; college attendance, and more importantly, graduation is declining (29% among Black males at HBCUs). When marriage was "highly valued" -- even shotgun marriages -- our progress in this country followed a positive trend, even in the Jim Crow South. The devaluation of marriage, and the substitution of shacking up, and baby mommas, and baby daddies for parents and famlies has ushered in a pattern of decline from which we will find it difficult to recover.

Families, sealed in bonds of marriage, are the foundation of strong communities. Strong communities are necessary to raise children to become productive citizens. When families cease to be the keepers of the values in our community, the children run amok. In the African Masai tribe, the warriors greet each other with, "How are the children?" The answer speaks to the highest value they hold dear -- "The children are well."

How would yur community answer that question today? The answer will tell you if "marriage is underrated."

We need to look at the bigger picture. Only strong families that build stronger communities will result in positive uplift our our people. Otherwise, the next generation of our children will be farther off the hook.

For those who haven't seen the other blog post, my wife and I have been married for 42 years. We have two children -- both married, and two grandchildren. We are holding dear to the values that our parents taught us (on both sides of our family, our parents were married until death parted them). If a family cannot hold dear to the values that bind them, what other relationships do they hold in higher esteem?

Yes, marriage is underrated, but it should be among the highest rated relationships that we aspire to have.

Roer Madison
www.izania.com

I see maggriage liscens as the only thing that can get you a divorce. My husbans is truely my great friend. WE can talk, laugh, share the same bed as well as the same bank account and never not know that the other is just a vital to this union as the other one.

If you and your husband /wife can not live in peace and harmoney then that piece of paper gets:lawyers rich, prisons ,grave yard and hospitals kept full and over run at times.But, if you have the opinion and belief as Hillary Clinton has about Bill not being abusive to her as adultry in her Christain values is redefined as L-O-V-E. But, then some people put that piece of paper as the problem cure all, say like ,"i I get preganat he will MARRY me" He will start to respect me and stop beatting me on such aregular basic. You know these are the things , "You have hear"!!!but, the best one is it is all for the children therefore leaving in denail things like 'if I do not kill him first or he kills me or he drops dead from a drug over dose.

Marriage is about respect, unity and things like is it working for my goal of being happy and secure...but, this is my take because I want the best, and most positive people in my life and even more if they want to share in my life. My marriage is not for show or public display to be put a value on in any way, for or fashion.

Now, I will say something about the quicky divorce( OR MOOT marriage deal), because it happened to me.With my first marraige we were together for for ever. We married for three years. Now the only reason we stayed married as long as we did was because we were in the military and if you live on base you can not get the residancy needed to get a divorce.My second marriage, we knew each other for a short time, never played house and have been married since the 67'.

My first marriage followed the old standard you must get married to live together and that old when are you going to have children. Back then we had that "old Maid" image to avoide. After we got married because this piece of paper was a cure all in 1962.The only thing I would not give in to was i could not marry the man I loved because he was not Catholic. This was the best decission(rebellion , I have ever done against moral laws)I say this because unlike the rich and famous Catholics, i could not afford to go to Rome and get permission from the POPeEto get a divorce,(you know how the Bible says that as Catholics you can not get a divorce!!!end of storybull) that is even if I were a male, Being a female whell you know how many rights we have in the matter...s*x is legal, ect(bull s---)

Remember me stressing being friends...my husband now and I are friends and so much so we do not take each other for granted nor follow the social rules of who plays what role in our marriage or our bed, etc. We do what is best for our relationship....

Nothing to do with that piece of paper that ask you to lie through your teeth about you can see the future and it is not with any problems thatyou will not even believe important enough to take the energy to work on inorder to save it from turning into a piece of paper that says divorce; so get ready to fight it out in a public and let the JUdge so his rulings on how you can live your life...over material things to prove who has the most money, power and biggest ego. it is not worth falling into allowing others to make up rules for you to keep your self, happy, safe and secure, Do this your self using your own powers!!!!