HAPPY MEN DAY OR....., oops! I MEANT FATHER'S DAY

" ... should've said ... "

As for me, I can honestly say that every day feels like father's day.

That's a lovely thought Miisrael and I am certainly grateful for the father (and mother) I was fortunate to have. And men! Stop touching our women in assaulting/offensive ways. It gives our men a bad image. And what a rotten example for our sons...

Bill,....I think it would be wonderful to down play "Dead-Beat Dads!" Fathers and or Dads are given that label to wear when they "just disappear from their children lives....I'm not a man, but I had to become one many days for my own son, his dad wasn't there for him many days. It's never too late though...children tend to forgive quicker than adults!...Craig, I love that you're a father everyday! I bet your children are glad you're with them. Johnnie..."sensible and responsible" two great ways to keep fathers in the families today. I'd love more replies...Come tell me more...

Nice blog Miisrael and Happy Father's Day to all the dads!!

Thanks JF!

There is a reason why that woman said those negative words about "men". She experienced something in her life to make her feel that way.
Just because society has a sterotypical view of fathers does not mean that it applies to all fathers. Some fathers are not in their children's lives because the mothers don't want the fathers to be there...I know first hand about this experience.
I fought for my place in my child's life because even her mother carried her for nine months, God made me just as responsible for my daughter as her mother. Her mother attempted to marginalize my contact and involvement from day one, but I went to see my daughter everyday even though she wouldn't let me hold her. I touched or hummed or did something to let her know that I was her father and I loved her no matter what. It was very hard to bite my tounge and know that I was not considered important to my daughter's life, but I fought and scrapped anyway I could to let my daughter know that I loved her even though I did not live in the house with her and that she was important to me. Everyone should remember that not all men are dogs,deadbeats or abusers and not all women are saints, responsible or righteous.

Greetings Roy! It's certain both parents play an important role in their child's life. Children need fathers and mothers. Whatever ways you can make to be there for them should be highly considered. If you keep trying to part of your child's life...you'll find some way. Having you in their lives is so important than just giving them up and never being there for them at all. Your points are well expressed. Parenthood involves three persons...Dads and Moms and child.

MIISRAEL, I applaud your comment on this subject. I went through me cell phone that has almost three-hundred contacts to send some :Happy Father's Day" wishes. As I reach the male contacts and thought whether they had children or not, I also found myself being quite selective in who I sent the message to. I immediately realized the impact of my own thoughts of male contacts in my phone! The Women's Ministry of may church hosted a two hour Father's Day luncheon on Saturday for the "Fathers" and only fifteen or so attended. My church has approx 4000 members. I am not speaking negatively toward men for I know there are some good ones, but where are the "Fathers". Men, we need more family heads/husbands & fathers and our children need their fathers and their mothers.

Thank you Helen! This is not a negative blog and you're not speaking negatively, but this is a positive blog. We need men and fathers for our children.... And so repeating lines from the blog: "I know there are still men and fathers around. There are still good dads! Are your kids missing you dad?"

I think the black men in particular are the ones that have been irresponsible in their duties as fathers. We as a community have accepted this as "normal". Parents of the Men, who father these childern, should be as upset as the girls parents when they find that theirr sons have girls pregant. Most of the time the man's family take's the attitude "she shoulda kept her dress down". Well, I'm here to tell you that you have a grandhild that will not be well balanced(male-female input) because you have not put pressure on your son to do the "right thing" by that child. We all play a part in letting this kind of sitaution develop in our community. It used to be a shameful thing to be pregnant and not married. Now, we have a celebration, baby showers, announcements, etc. I don't mean to say we should punish the child for the parents being irresponsible (mother and father). If you date and have s*x with bad characters, they will most likely be the fathers of your childern. So now, we mothers have to accept 50% of who became the father of our childern. There's no such thing as casual dating these days, one date and into bed we go. Well, you don't know the man and he doesn't know you. So, why do you expect him to change into this man of strong courage and unblemished character. Let us ask ourselves this question, please!!!

Hi Daisy: You've made some very strong and true comments. Family values do matter and many families have weaken in their teaching of values; even though we hat to admit it. Fathers and mothers alike are not teaching a lot of good old fashioned "responsibility" values. Daughters and sons are bringing children in the world when they are still children themselves. Most born out of wed-lock. Marriages seem to have become and un-do instead of I do. Yet, still good fathers can be found in these relationships that stir up. Why do we expect change because there is always a light of hope that more can be good fathers and make a change. Men need the encouragement and like you said, we do need to pressure our sons and daughters. You're a great thinker, pass on your thoughts and concerns to those you see have need. I appreciate all you've written. My greatest thanks!