HELP WANTED:
Just two days ago, a woman stopped by my desk for a chat. She's single and well she wasn't the most attractive woman, and she was obese. However, her character was admirable and she showed a display of kindness. She wasn't interested in finding employment though she was look for a good black man. Yes you read that right. She talked of how she had been involved in relationships with black men that only left her with three gorgeous children and her lonely without companionship or marriage.
I admit, I just listenened to her all so familar story. I didn't know much on how to advice her either. After all of exhaling of her failure in men, she said she still wants a good black man. One that can be a father to her existing children and a good husband to her. I was wondering is this really what has become of our black men? I know,..I know this doesn't apply to all black men. Here's the thing though, I hear this type of story from so many black females. They become involved with relationships of black men who they feel have failed the qualifications to live up to what's defined as a good black man. Black females are looking for help from a good black man.
This has set a cycle of black women who I also hear a lot who are praying that "God will send them a good black man and husband." They are for the majority still waiting! The qualifications they are looking for are not being met, and more and more women are starting to live alone. Are there no good black men for good black women anymore? If you have a good black partner consider yourself in a minority.
No, I'm not judging any black man but the pickings are rare and far. So I'm only suggesting that Black men find their "identity" and pursue another way that they can become better for black women. There are so many ways to look such a broad topic like this. Voice yours if you'd like. Maybe next time I see her I can share some good advice for her lonely state of waiting on a good black man. Let's hope that black women won't give up waiting for just ONE to answer the ad.
I admit, I just listenened to her all so familar story. I didn't know much on how to advice her either. After all of exhaling of her failure in men, she said she still wants a good black man. One that can be a father to her existing children and a good husband to her. I was wondering is this really what has become of our black men? I know,..I know this doesn't apply to all black men. Here's the thing though, I hear this type of story from so many black females. They become involved with relationships of black men who they feel have failed the qualifications to live up to what's defined as a good black man. Black females are looking for help from a good black man.
This has set a cycle of black women who I also hear a lot who are praying that "God will send them a good black man and husband." They are for the majority still waiting! The qualifications they are looking for are not being met, and more and more women are starting to live alone. Are there no good black men for good black women anymore? If you have a good black partner consider yourself in a minority.
No, I'm not judging any black man but the pickings are rare and far. So I'm only suggesting that Black men find their "identity" and pursue another way that they can become better for black women. There are so many ways to look such a broad topic like this. Voice yours if you'd like. Maybe next time I see her I can share some good advice for her lonely state of waiting on a good black man. Let's hope that black women won't give up waiting for just ONE to answer the ad.
I know there are many out there who are single, and many married who wish they were single. I don't know if there's anything different about black men, though I seem to hear this complaint a lot I think the best one can do is not look too hard. It's better to just wait than end up with another failure.