DO YOU LISTEN OR SPREAD GOSSIP? WHAT CAN BE DONE TO DISCONNECT?
YOU see I work with people of many backgrounds, ethics and morals. Many times some of them come to me with conversations of gossip about others. I hate to seem rude, because these people are genuinely nice and usually helpful to me. I admit, I think it's distasteful to hear them talking about someone I see in a totally different mannerism. I'm not one to spread gossip, nor do I want to listen or hear it either.
What can be done to disconnect from gossip? How can I approach telling the teller of gossiper tactfully? I really prefer not to hear what they are telling if they're in the gossiping of what someone does in attitudes or actions in their personal lives. I like both persons with, or without their faults. I'm going to have to speak up soon. Last time he or she were I around I excused myself away from them. I'm striving to always seek only positive aspects of any persons. Any suggestions?
What can be done to disconnect from gossip? How can I approach telling the teller of gossiper tactfully? I really prefer not to hear what they are telling if they're in the gossiping of what someone does in attitudes or actions in their personal lives. I like both persons with, or without their faults. I'm going to have to speak up soon. Last time he or she were I around I excused myself away from them. I'm striving to always seek only positive aspects of any persons. Any suggestions?
'm not one to gossip so I don't entertain it. It's pretty much like rumors what is said gets added on and taking away then it's different altogether that what was originally said. Plus gossip is negative, aggressive social laddering where people use it to gain social advantage despite the damage it does to the persons involved. Usually gossip can be based upon pure assumption, prejudice and dime store pyschology.
The best ways to turn gossip away is to directly say to the person you simply don't care to hear the personal business of others. Don't bother to scold or pre-judge the person sending the gossip to you because they might not be the one whom originally spread it and just might be an innocent follower but none are innocent really if gossip intends to harm. Once you let it be known to mainly privately you don't care and you stick to the rule of not spreading it yourself then it won't be brought to you. You can't stop gossip but you can must certainly set an quiet example to it's negativity. Gossip destroys community amongst people and it helps anti-socialism to spread.