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Notable/Quotable: Mo'Nique on Marriage

Jen Fad · Wednesday, April 21st 2010 at 4:22PM · 1853 views
"We've been best friends for over 25 years, and we truly know who we are. Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don't know who they're laying next to. I'm very comfortable and secure with my husband."

-- Academy Award nominee Mo'Nique on her open with marriage to best friend/manager Sidney Hicks Mo'Nique Skinny('The New York Daily News')
http://www.bvnewswire.com/2010/03/03/mo-ni...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_97rXEB3vM... Mo'Nique Barbara Walters Special
Notable/Quotable: Mo'Nique on Marriage

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Cynthia Merrill Artis Wednesday, April 21st 2010 at 9:17PM

JEN no u didn't!! I love me some Mo.... But she trippin' right here!!

Jen Fad Wednesday, April 21st 2010 at 9:56PM

I agree with you... infidelity is a sure deal breaker as well as a covenant breaker. It's always been grounds for getting divorced.

Cynthia Merrill Artis Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 12:40PM

divorce.... castration... pot of grits... LOL...

Jen Fad Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 1:01PM

A hot pot of grits... now that's serious... I'm amazed that when people come into money how they change and start thinking differently...

I'm not saying that is the case with Mo'nique(because I know she's your girl and all, but I never thought I'd hear the day when a sistah of all people would say that s*x outside the marriage isn't a deal breaker.

Having s*x outside the marriage was the kind of thing that could get someone killed or seriously injured and I hear it still does. Ha! I wonder how doctors treat burns due to hot grits being throne on their patients?

Cynthia Merrill Artis Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 1:07PM

LMAO...Remember Al Green... found religion after his girlfriend threw some on him...LOL

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Doreen Brayboy Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 4:39PM

Where is the character here? She is such a beautiful woman, but this type of thing speaks a lot about how she feels about her self worth. Theres a message behind the message. She was s*xually violated at a young age and I believe this plays a great deal with how she view the sacredness of marriage.

Jen Fad Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 5:05PM

Sister Doreen,

That's a good point you make about Mo' abuse speaking alot of about how she views the sanctity of marriage. Perhaps she has been in therapy or perhaps she hasn't but from her statement it looks like she needs to go back or to continue with therapy.

s*x isn't something that should be played around with in my opinion, but to each his/her own. Even the Indian (Hindu) have an entire book on the science of s*x (the Kama Sutra). s*x consumates a marriage so not only is it important from a religious perspective, but from a pratical perspective.

Cynthia Merrill Artis Thursday, April 22nd 2010 at 6:41PM

yes DR. FAD.... I agree... And I don't this is about character... This goes way deeper... character vs. behavior

self esteem ... self worth...self DIGNITY... she's on her third marriage.... Jen help me out here.... most abused/molested/incestrial victims.. have issues with committment? Statistics show promiscurity... multiple pregnancies...? Mo's problems are more psychological...wouldn't you say?

Maryanne Campbell Friday, April 23rd 2010 at 12:52AM

I don't know if she means it like that... if she does it's a shocker... My interpretation is she believes in remaining loyal or faithful, but in the case that one has an affair, as people who are married still have free will, and may fall into the trap of infidelity, as we’re human, it’s not acceptable, but they love each other enough –unconditionally, to work through it, heal, forgive, seek marriage counseling, etc. The idea of her confessing that she and her husband have an open marriage is preposterous, however, to each their own… What works for one person, may not work for another. Maybe she feels she’s being realistic within herself, or believes deep down inside that a man can’t remain faithful, or faithful to her, specifically, and thus she’s selling herself short… It’s pathetic, but not surprising…

Felicia Henderson- Ayler Saturday, April 24th 2010 at 4:03PM

wow i cant believe i just heard what i just heard and watched. I can't say i feel the same way on this one. I dont see myself allowing my husband to lay in bed wit another women and tell me with all honesty that he is in love with me.

Jen Fad Saturday, April 24th 2010 at 4:06PM

I know that's real Felicia!

Will Moss Sunday, November 27th 2011 at 2:26AM

Different people sometimes feel differently based on what they have been through in life. I can respect Mo'Nique's position on this, though it might not be for me if I was married... It goes back to trust.

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L. Y. Johnson Sunday, November 27th 2011 at 8:10AM

As much respect as I have for Mo this irritates me. First, don't get married if you are not going to go about it the way the Lord intended. Two, that is her insecurity lying to her to believe that having s*x with someone else is not a deal breaker...she has brainwashed herself into making it ok for her husband to cheat because she doesn't believe she deserves the love and devotion of ONE man. You are accepting less than what God wants for you...but that is your life and I hope you won't be hurt with your decision.

Jen Fad Wednesday, November 30th 2011 at 2:27PM

@ LY,

It irrritated the heck out me to because a man having ongoing affairs with one or multiple mistresses is a DEAL BREAKER. If it happened once like a one night stand, then I can work with him but habitual womanizing is just not KOSHER.

Monique needs therapy for the incest and molestatin she suffered at the hands of her older brother if not the whole entire family.

Jen Fad Wednesday, December 7th 2011 at 4:34PM

@ Sister Len,

Definitely do think she's lost her mind on that one! If she like polygamy and wants to endourse it... then that's her business, but I'm not into that nonsense.

@ ALiya,
I hear you.


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Hoda Sulub Sunday, March 4th 2012 at 10:26PM

Monique just seems very animated to me..

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