RE : SHOULD WE ARRANGE MARRIAGES FOR OUR CHILDREN..CONTAINS ONE OF THE GREATEST INSULTS TO BLACK MOTHEHOOD,

Honestly I think that it's all about a woman and how she see's herself. Why would anyone feel as though they "have" to share a man?

Some women are so desperate to have someone (I won't say a man.. Because a real man won't go out like that) she will do whatever. I know that pride is a deadly sin... but I'd be by myself before I share a man...

I believe it is the DUTY of the Father and Mother to Raise a disciplined daughter.
I believe it is the DUTY of the Father and Mother to Look for a Son in Law for their daughter.

now for me, my first daughter is quite tall, over 6'3"----

I knew a young man from Ethiopia who I saw most mornings at the Masjid Fajr prayer and during SharRamadhan.

He just so happened to be 6'6", a university graduate, working on a law degree--and no interest in basketball.
He had seen my disciplined, intelligent, beautiful, and tall daughter at her graduation as Valedictorian. And was interested but not sure.

His Father had died years earlier.
I went with him to Africa to meet his mother, his uncles and other brothers and sisters. I had already married twice in East African, so I loved the dorowat, injera, tipps, etc. etc. AND I loved his family---long story short:

I have and it is my DUTY to arrange all the Marriages of my Family.....

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Robert... Very interesting.... How many times have you been married?

irma I know you have an issue with comprehension' so let me again write,

I believe it is the DUTY of the Father and Mother to Raise a disciplined daughter. (my first sentence)

my disciplined, intelligent, beautiful, and tall daughter at her graduation as Valedictorian(My daughter....................)

My Family is me and my wives and children, their brothers, sisters, uncles, mothers and fathers and family---and Our Family of Adaam.................

others, irma, may be in unequal family relationships with rape, and discrimination----

but ----- I AND my FAMILY follow the disciplined FAMILY Path of Adaam and

in AlQur'aan Sûrat At-Taubah (The Repentance) ----The Creator says(best english)

91. There is no blame on those who are weak, old or ill or who find no resources to spend in obligatory struggle if they are sincere and true in duty to Allâah and His Messenger.[1] No complaint can there be against the Muhsinûn (good-doers). And Allâah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

(V.9:91) The Statement of the Prophet Õáì Çááå Úáíå æÓáã : "Religion is An-Nasîhah - to be sincere and true to:
1. Allâah Ìá ÌáÇáå i.e. [obeying Him, by following His Religion of Monotheism, as Begun with Adaam and attributing to Allaah what He deserves and doing obligatory struggle for His sake and to believe in Him, to fear Him and abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds which He has forbidden and love Him and perform all good deeds which He has ordained]

2. Allâah’s Messengers from Adaam, to Nuh, to Ibraheem, to Musa, to IsaIbnMaryam, [ to respect them greatly and to believe that He is Allâah’s Last Messenger, and to fight and follow his Sunnah - (and the legal ways of AtTaurat, AlIngeel, AzZaboor and AlQur'aan)]

3. All the Muslims [to order them for Al-Ma‘rûf (Islâamic Monotheism, and all that AlIslâam orders one to do), and to forbid them from Al-Munkar (disbelief, polytheism,paganism, and all that The Creator has forbidden), and to be merciful and kind to them].

Hold up.... Wives??? Robert are you married to several women.. or these are ex wives?

Cynthia, your answer to Robert's question is as good as mine (LOL). Also Cynthia, Robert has offered several times to add me to his harem of wives and I refuse.

IIII speak as the old American THE ROBERTS OF THE WORLD---

Our Father Adaam, had to give a RIB, had to give devotion to The Creator for a Female, for Us.

why is it all the woe and crying in 2010 is perpetuated by female against THE ROBERTS OF THE WORLD?

yea, THE ROBERTS OF THE WORLD, do take it personal---we have sacrificed MORE than IRMAS OF THE WORLD for Family.

"...HAVE TO..." ?!?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!? (SMILE)

sHOULD SOME OF US NOT LOVE, RESPECT SOME OF OUR MOTHERS BECAUSE THEY GOT A DIVORCE, NEVER MARRIED, OUR FATHER'S DIED, SHE KILLED HIM TO HELP SAVE HER LIFE, OUR LIFE, ECT.????!!!!!!

MY GOD HOW LOW CAN WE PUT OUR SELVES ON The NONCIVILIZED SCALES SET FOR US BY TEH POWERS THAT BE????????????????????( "i" AM NOT SMILING)

i WILL GET OVER THIS, BUT RIGHT NOW i DON'T WANT TO DO SO. (SMILE)

Cynthia, this is one of the main reasons I take people as they are. Why, I persoanlly believe that we can not socialize natural instincts to survive and be experts on anyone but our ownselves...

I do know "I" did not raise my two girls to ever even think they were not the most important persons on this earth therefore never ever accept being second, any thing...I will never forget being taught to love your own self was being selfish...If one has no self worth they will end up believeing they are worthless there fore they are in need of an identity...and, there are Harrys and Jamals and pimps and scam artist out there all day long ready and willing to be their guides...

SO FAR I HAVE NOT SEEN ANYONE WITH MORE POWER THAN "MOTHER POWER". MORE LOVE AND RESPECT THAN BLACK PRIDE , BUT, AS I KEEP SAYING "I" AM BIASED LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL (SMILE)

thanks so much Dr. Artis and happy Mother's day...I know your sons did you right today. (smile)

Robert, have you noticed how your comment was about you and this man andhis family and yet nothing about your daughter?!?Much like she is not even a part of the rest of heer life...but marriage I guess is all about producing children from a what, BABY MACHINE...SORRY BUT EVEN THE LAWS IN THIS COUNTRY SAYS A WIFE CAN BE RAPED BY HER HUSBAND...hundreds of years after slavery has ended but the female is slowly but surely getting equal rights and protections under the laws/ books/ traditoins written by MEN for their pleasures-'superego' (smile)

This is why I see things like this as putting a female on an auction block and if nothing else, it is a form of discrmination against the female...

But, this is me, and what "I" passed on to my children, and they on to their children as my mother taught me and her mother tought her and so on and so on. (smile)... "I" am someone who refuses to accept any thing less than E-Q-U-A-L-I-T-Y ADDED TO "I" AM THE ONLY ONE QUALIFIED TO LIVE MY LIFE. (smile)

Poor, robert he has still chosen to act as if his female child does not even rate an honorable mentiion, as he trys to live my life by telling me what and how to think, but that is the beauty of brainwashing...

Me, I can recognize "brainwashing" even when it comes under the title of "DISCIPLINE". LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL (smile)

Dr. Artis and my beautiful independent not looking for an identity daughter...this is an example of females sharing their bed and having many children = BAD....

the male doing the sharing beds with many women and having many children = GOOD. (smile)

THIS IS A QUOTE THAT I JUST LOVE...

"BOOK LEARNING WITHOUT ANY EVERY DAY COMMON SENSE DOES NOT AMOUNT TO A HILL OF BEANS" (smile)

"I' FULLY Accept THAT AS HUMAN BEINGS WE ARE EQUAL...AS AMERICANS WE HAVE THE SAME RIGHTS AS ANYONE ELSE..."I" TREAT OTHERS AS "I" WANT TO BE TREATED...THIS SI BECAUSE "I AM"...

robert is you take time to try and allow what I say as objective and not subjective then you might be able to see and even understand that "II" have not quoted you as saying anything...and if "I" did "I" would give you full credit for saying it...(smile)

"I" do notice that any thing that "I" directed directly at you you have avoided...but, I will not lower myself to condemning you as this is your right..."I' know that you have seen my statement many many time about only that person is the expert on their own self....(smile) If you wives, your children are happy and, yet you are the onlyone they allow to determine their being happy then this is on them, not me...again, robert, I am the only one responsible for my actions, but as you have chosen to not be happy with what I say then this also ...is on you...

Or have you ignored that this blog is under the name of___________________and, it is not here to satisfy or upset you or for you to give me an identity nor a purpose in life which again this is on you not me. (smile)

By the way robert do you call your self robert or do you call your self THE ROBERTS OF THE WORLD?!? (but maybe that expression about if it sounds like a duck, etc. fits here.lol... BUT was actual ly THE PURPOSE OF YOUR MISQUOTING ME EVENTHOUGH WHAT I SAID IS ACTUALLY RIGHT HERE ON M-Y BLOG....THEREFORE I FEEL A ...

'STUCK ON STUPID" coming on.loooooooooooooooooooooooooooool (smile)