QUESTIONS FOR THE BROTHERS AND SISTERS OF THIS FORUM...
Peace To All:
I know my questions may be deep and three of the 8 questions may be a little hesitant on rather or not to reply. Well I think we as Blackmen and Blackwomen are in need of healing before we can truly unite. Perhaps we can get out of our system questions that we have concerning one another. For the purpose of resolve and healing to come together again as one solid unit. So I will start with these questions adding on as I see fit:
1. How would you describe a happy marriage?
2. How would you define true sisterhood/brotherhood?
3. What would you say is the number one misunderstanding about women?
4. Do you think a woman can change a man and visa - versa?
5. Do you think it is true if a man or woman hits you they will do it again?
6. Should he or she stay in the relationship and try to work it out with the abuser?
7. Same question as above concerning verbal abuse?
8. Brothers what is the number one misunderstanding about men?
Looking forward to some feedback. Remember there are no right or wrong answers.
Peace
I know my questions may be deep and three of the 8 questions may be a little hesitant on rather or not to reply. Well I think we as Blackmen and Blackwomen are in need of healing before we can truly unite. Perhaps we can get out of our system questions that we have concerning one another. For the purpose of resolve and healing to come together again as one solid unit. So I will start with these questions adding on as I see fit:
1. How would you describe a happy marriage?
2. How would you define true sisterhood/brotherhood?
3. What would you say is the number one misunderstanding about women?
4. Do you think a woman can change a man and visa - versa?
5. Do you think it is true if a man or woman hits you they will do it again?
6. Should he or she stay in the relationship and try to work it out with the abuser?
7. Same question as above concerning verbal abuse?
8. Brothers what is the number one misunderstanding about men?
Looking forward to some feedback. Remember there are no right or wrong answers.
Peace
Here's my answers:
1. How would you describe a happy marriage?
When each other are patient, loving and understanding toward one another. Also when the marriage is based on honesty and shared interest (spirituality, goals, agreeing on how to raise children, etc.). Taking time to enjoy one another and operating on a maturity level when needed and being most playful when needed, just to name a few. Having a wonderful intimate relationship. Most importantantly never competing or feeling the need to compete with one another.
2. How would you define true sisterhood?
Being for real with one another, giving, sharing, telling the truth regardless, and wanting happiness for your sister as you want for yourself. Just to name a few.
3. What would you say is the number one misunderstanding about woman?
Oh, the number one misunderstanding about us we love drama. That we can't get along, when we express the truth and stand firm with it we want to be a man.
4. Do you think a woman can change a man and visa - versa?
Yes, I think a woman can change a man, and a man can change a woman. By nature, we are drawn to what is already within ourselves, and that means the good and bad aspects of ourselves. Your mate is a reflection of you. When you see something in your mate's characteristic that you don't like, more than likely that is something you need to work on within yourself, and vice versa. That way both of you are affecting a change for each other.
5. Do you think it is true if a man or woman hits you they will do it again?
I've never been in an abusive relationship but yes.
6. Should he or she stay in the relationship and try to work it out with the abuser?
I don't believe that would be in the best interest of the mate who's being abused to stay.
7. Same question as above concerning verbal abuse?
Isn't abuse, abuse? Verbal abuse could lead to physical abuse. Regardless, a person should know that they deserve better than to be with someone who does not respect them or love them.