The man that broke your heart and left you for another!!!!

You tell'm Helen. Too many fish in the sea I was told.
Dumping out tuna could led to a real Salmon...

I think that you just don't know how to be real from the start of the relationship, giving the female the ideal that your feelings are sincere, when you just want to get it on.

from a black man point of view there is a lot of love going around so just dust yourself off and im sure there is a good brother just waiting in the wings for a lovely lady !
the first thing you got to do is get out the house and start meeting people and feel good about your self ! keave them zero's alone and fine a hero or leave them small fries alone and get you a big mac !

Then women should learn not to be so gulliable! Everything said or... looks good isn't always so. You can almost tell what a man intentions are within a 24 hour period; if you know just what to look for. Sometimes, you can tell in less than 30 seconds! Don't be a prey to all the sweetness and his pity me love stories. His true self will unveil before you so..don't jump into what you think is real love finding and and leaving you only satisfying his lusts.

If your relationship is just based on just a s*xual attraction, then you know it's not going anywhere because every female has the same body parts.

MISSREAL AND HELLEN
MEN CALL A WOMAN LIKE THAT A ''JUMP OFF''' SHE IS ONLY GOOD FOR s*x AND THAT WHAT MEN USE HER FOR ,
I FEEL BLACK MEN NEED TO LEARN HOW TO BE loving towards our sisters there are to many sisters that are good and can really be good for the brothers that really want to be loved its these young punks that will sell sisters out and make fun of then i cant stand a man like that to me they might be men but act like lil boys !

Great comment BNY..There is a common heartache and pain in breaking up. The best thing is healing time and keeping things of positiveness in your thoughts and heart.

There are men that mark their territory as you say, they break off but still consider you to be their property. While they are out partying your suppose to feel all alone and waiting for them to give you some more attention.

Women have got to wake up. You can see bull coming a mile away, if women just clear the stars out their eyes. Take it slow. Share breakfast, lunch and dinner, don't share your body. Like these women have stated, usually women can tell, they're just looking for love and don't want to open their eyes. Come on ladies, don't be gullible. Just when you least expect it, BAM, the most amazing man walks into your life, and you're so hung up on that trash, walking around with raggedy slippers, hair all messed up, you can't even see him, and what's more, he can't see you either, look at you, you're a MESS! LOL!

You get so comfortable in a relationship that's going nowhere, that you stop wearing make-up just to keep him from being jealous. My ex use to get upset if I was wearing lipstick or looked like I was going somewhere. That what I call conditioning.

Helen is making some truth about some men. They do like the control-- and that's even when they are telling them they don't look good when they actually do. They like to see them look their worst so that they feel they are no longer wanted by other men. They like to shadow them away from the beautiful person they really are. When they leave them deserted, some women suffer longer in thinking everything is at a lost. Often, these women are depressed and feel worthless without the sense that life is worth living becaise their heart is torn to pieces.

I think it's one BIG headache!... I feel for my sisters who are detraught by such men who uses them. It's so senseless that the good thang in the pants is just a roll in the bed and not real love. When the good thang is thru for some men it's on to another fooling victim of pleasured love.

There are also many women who are like this -- they want nothing but the s*x and leave men just as bitter about women who really wanted to have more intimacy & that long-staying love-- finally leading to a commitment and marriage. They fall into the trap. Men and Women have to start taking emotional love more seriously, it more likely that a good combo is when two of kind find each other, but that's not always the case.

--Equally yoked is the best option of all in my opinion.