IS IT COOL TO BE A MISTRESS?????

I think in cases like this people should consider some of the practices of the 3rd World or Islamic people such as polygamy. At least this way the first wife will have a her status as the first wife which brings more respect and clout. The other wives can still have a piece of the man.

Polygamy still has its place in society for nation building and for woman that accept the fact some men are polygamous. I believe we are e re-establishing this practice in the south and other parts of the country with acceptance from woman and men that are not just out their playing around.

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yep.. A Pimp! But I for one do not wish to participate in ((an open marriage))... I'm a liberal.. I believe in don't ask ... don't tell.... homos*xuality is not something I would practice... and I don't judge against people who do... Is it a sin??? Is lying ... stealing... killing a sin? Polygamy is still in use today... BUT also... Today we live in a culture where ... secrets are being kept... ((Down Low Brotha"s.... Bis*xual Females...)) and STD's are killing our people.....

The reasons for polygamy ... granted (Abraham) because his wife Sara was barren.... simply being able to bring forth child .... and the concubine was for.... oh you know.
Until the black man gets it together with one wife... Please having multiple wives in my opinion is ridiculous......

Well a pimp is more of a negative word for a man who I wouldn't even call a polygamist, but more of a womanizer for his own financial or personal gain and often doesn't even like women unless they are doing what he wants them to do for him. A polygamist as a man has more than one woman in most societies where it is practiced legally for the purpose of having more children and more than one wife is also often attached to his status in the village as a man that can handle the responsibility of more than one wife and many children. Yes America's laws are about population and mind control everywhere. It will not work though.

ok... Sista Kim... tell me seriously what does the women get out of this? Whathappens if it's the husband who's infertile? Does the wife get to find another husband whom can give her babies? Im not familar with a lot of cultures when it comes to multiple marriages... I've somehow viewed it as man's control over women...

I am familiar with some of the reasons for the practice of polygamy for a man having more than one wife. Although I do know there are or were cultures where women were allowed to have more than one husband. I am less familiar with the reasoning behind this other than that they were royalty.

First of all their are s*x laws that coincide with divine natural law that tells us we should only be having s*x during the mating season from approximately March 21st to June 21st or so in the spring. I know this is a hard concept for us to swallow, but the animals which are considered lower than us follow this practice while humans have s*x all year long, I would say because of poor dietary habits and a s*x centered society. s*x is actually meant for procreation. Your s*xual energy runs through your heart and feeds your brain. The tree of life feeds the tree of knowledge. Ancient wisdom once taught us the importance of keeping our divine essence of body fluid inside our body.

When a mother conceives a child she is supposed to nurse her child for 3 years without s*x or else this interferes with genetic information being passed on to the child through the mothers breast milk. I don't know the period of time that a male is supposed to be celibate or even if he is, but in between time he could impregnate some of his other wives still within the mating season following divine natural law our children will be stronger and have much better sense if these practices were still followed. But we obviously have a long way to go to get back to this.

s*x shortens our life span and the lifespan of our children. We used to live to be at least 100's of years old. Polygamy is no uncontrolled s*xual behavior or the control of another person, that is just what we have began to think or practice.

oh my!!! Sista you have just messed me up! I don't know what to say.... Let me compose myself before I say anything more!!! Mating season.... 3 years of refraining...

But let me ask this.... Is this the reason some African Cultures believe in circumscision of females... by way of removing the clitoris, because females are not to have pleasure from s*x?

circumscision of females; circumscision of males are the Monotheistic Practices given The Family of Adaam(as), from Ibraheem, Musa, IsaIbnMaryam thru Mohamed(asm)


----FGM---is a term used by paganChristian europeanThinkers who gave us the SAVAGERY of 1492-1864 slaverAmericana; as well as negra"MISTRESS"----

paganChristians have denigrated the beauty and feelings of WomanHood that Muslim, Jewish and African women Achieve--

Muslim, Jewish and African women--- ALL have MORE CHILDREN AND MORE PLEASURABLE EXPERIENCES WITH THEIR Husbands, than europeanChristian non circumsized men and women.

"Proof is in the puddy"

-be responsible Believing Men and Marry the woman, or women of your and her choice and do not commit Adultery.

I heard about this around 1999... Tyra Banks and Terry McMillian talked about this ..

Islamic Republic of Mauritania in North Africa... 40% mixed Moor/Black; 30% Moor; 29% Black.... is another country... they have some wild out practices!

Robert what do you mean? Explain to me... so that i can understand... female circumcision is a practice passed down from Adam?

I agree 100% with Miisrael.

male and female circumcision is a practice of Monotheism.

the critics of this are always proved wrong, Scientifically and Biologically;

male circumcision is healthier than non, and female circumcision is healthier than non AND AtTaurat, The Laws of Musa, AlInjeel, AzZaboor(which miisrael and steve above list), and AlQur'aan are very specific about this Healthy Human Practice.

AND more children are conceived by circumcised male/female --- So, my opinion and history, better Pleasure for Male and Female Married Partners.......................

oh no! no! call me narrow minded on this subject... I don't like mutilation of any sort..

I know it is still important in some African cultures for a women to be virgins. I don't believe in the mutilation though but without your clitoris I am sure you are less s*xual and may concentrate more on raising your family. It is a form of s*xual control to me unless the woman agrees with the procedure. Men need to control themselves too. Some say circumcision stems from religious beliefs. Maybe the circumcision/mutilation topic deserves some research. Maybe it is beneficial. To control your s*xual energy normally takes a lot of spiritual practice because it has become naturally harder to do with the chemicals and pollutants we are eating or breathing and of course all the things that come into our worldly vision.

So back to the mistress. The mating season is almost here, so who is this mystery mistress? What does she get out of being the other women?

well... i'm not into group s*x.... or open relationships... nor swinging.......

Healthy s*xual practices are good. A lot of people don't like to talk about infidelity past our present. I guess I was always too selfish to ever be into sharing. Abstinence is a good spiritual practice but normally not promoted like c*ndoms.

again, ladies---you listen to WHO.

nonEuropean paganChristians call something mutilation--

The Creator of Adaam(as) and Believers call it male/*female circumcision.

Ask a Believer, ask a Doctor, ask the source NOT the gossip.

the africanSlave girl did not have a right to choose the MASTER---she did not have the right in 1492 and in 2011 the Mistress is a dangerous medical risk.

uuummm My Lady you ask some thought provoking questions.. I don't know how to answer them... I just find alot of "s*xual diversities" different my morals... I have never gotten involved in affairs, sharing, cheating... any forms of abuse, mutilation, superiority, depriving women of their rights nor desires...

For me... polygamy isn't the answer... children being married off and forced into s*x. I don't agree that I should allow my children to start exploring s*x without proper education and protection.

Maryam the Mother of Isa was a child as we label in English in 2011.

She was given---- for HER DEVOTION to the Creator of Adaam(as); by The Creator of Mankind--------- a Miraculous Womanhood and MotherHood.

Again, I ask WHO do you get your info from?

Marriage is the Creators' GIFT to Adaam, to Mankind-----For Survival----A knowledge that was not given in a Cave(dark, dirty, hidden) but in a Paradise(lighted, beautiful and open for all of Creation to witness)

YaAllaah, shukraAllaah, AlHamdullillaah................

Some how you always seem to forget, if he'll cheat on his wife he'll do it to you.

..."I" believes it all boils down to who lives your life? example,

Do you have enough self esteem to live your own life by your rules of what makes you happy , safe and content...or do you depend on others to determine your self worth / your happiness for you instead ?!? (smile)

...and, I am sure all of us have at one time or another have been defined as something/ some person, we are not in real life. ..correct? lol (smile)

...now I will say this and leave...

WHAT IS THE ROLE OF TEH FEMALE IN YOUR bIBLE...AND WHY THESE ROLES SO DEMEANING TO THE FEMALE ...(AS REGULATED TO BEING A s*x OBJECT AS I BARING CHILDREN..MALES IN SPECIFIC WITH NO VOICE IN WHO SHE IS FORCED TO SLEEP WITH AT LEAST A MISTRESS CAN MAKE HER OWN CHOICES OF HER BED PARTNER...WHICH TO ME IS A GREAT STEP UP TO NOT BEING JUST A s*x O-B-J-E-C-T )

AND SO UP LIFITNG TO THE MALE HE GETS ALL TEH RIGHTS TO CHOSE THEIR s*x OBJECT DOES HE NOT UNLESS HE DIES THEN HIS BROTHER AUTOMATICALLY GETS AN ADDITIONAL s*x OBJECT AS COUSTM OR RELIGIOUS RITES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?!? (NUP)

@cYNTHIA, HAVE YOU EVER FOUND IT NECESSARY TO CONDEMN THE JEWS FOR THIS PRACtice or again is it just the female that the negative like pain in child birth...when in reality the pain comes from our body separating to give birth...

brest feeding is a form of birt control that maybe has lead to this false image of there must not be any s*x going on...or maybe even a way to calim we in the Black race are not intellegant enough to have know about birth control????

lets see if we were having s*x back during the man living in caves then maybe it really does have s*x having to do NATURAL BEHAVIORS ...with the survival of the human race rather than man made behavoir...LIKE MEN RAPING WOMEN...MEN OF TEH CLOTH RAPING CHILDREN...YOUNGE CHILDREN HAVING HARDS FOR NO REASON AT ALL BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO WAY OF KNOWING ABOUT THIS AS A MEANING JUST IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH PASING URINE SO THE BODY WILL NOT BE POISONED FROM RETINTION OF THIS MATTER IN TEH BODY AGAIN SOMETHING TO DO WITH SURVIVAL OF TEH HUMAN SPECIES?!?

SLEF CONTROL CAN NOT BE REGULATED BY MAN OR GOD'S LAWS BECAUSE WE ALL HAVE H-U-M-A-N NATURAL BEHAVIORS AND WE ARE ALL I-N-D-I-V-I-D-U-A-L-S...

NOW IS GETTING A DIVORCE WIPING OUT YOU HAVE BEENSLEEPING WITH MORE THAN ONE SPOUSE...DO PEOPLE WHO KNOW THEY CAN NOT HAVE CHILDREN STOP HAVING s*x...s*xUAL DESIRES...OR DO WE JUST OVER LOOK THIS AND REWRITE THE MARRIAGE, HAVING CHILDREN RULES EACH TIME..."I" DO KNOW THE POPE REJECTS VIRGIN BIRTH NOW THAT IS IS BEIND DONE...AND AS I JUST SAID, DO WE JUST REWRITE THE RULE BOOKS ON WHY , WHEN, HOW TO HAVE s*xUAL DESIRES AS OUR SCIENCE POEIABILITIES CHANGE THE REALITY OF LIFE IS A PROCESS AND SOCUAL RULES HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH NATURAL INSTINCTS TO SURVIVE AND TO BE HAPPY WHILE LIVING/ SURVIVING???

now i really will go tis time.lol (smile)

@robert, another man made social behavior m-y-t-h is one can not/ is illegal to kill their ownself. After all how can you control a dead person?!?

Any one can chose the hour of their deat just as sure as a murderor , the prison warden , war , your lover can do this..."I" can kill myself any time I c-h-o-o-s-e to do so because I am in control of all of my behaviors. (smile)