Losing Them Mentally By Missing Them Physically
It's amazing how many men will not pick-up a book on the subjects of s*x and intimacy. It's like the mere act is a confession that they are somehow NOT a man. I had a book called "The Tao of s*xology" and for those that saw me with it, considered me crazy and or weak! "Man you need a book to show you what to do?! You supposed to know that by nature!" Maybe I am, but we are far off from our nature. And, the results before and after that book and others with some real world experience was definitely measurable.
Learning how to touch, caress, kiss and even talk a female into a state of ecstatic relaxation before, during and after the main event, can only help you and her! Though many women know what they like, it’s based in the realm of what they have experienced. You’ll find quite often that she has never been engaged in certain ways and that a new experience in its self can help keep the fires blazing between you two.
Some women lie to men in the bed, with the screaming and other theatrics, because they don’t want to hurt his feelings or piss him off and end up having him go elsewhere to find someone he CAN please. They don’t want to lose the WHOLE man over s*x. But when you lie to him (not saying all do), you make him believe he has completely fulfilled you, when he hasn’t, which sets up a cycle of misinformation as well. He will then transmit that info to others in the language of,
“Man I put that pole on her last night! I smashed that! She was screamin’ and begging me to stop.” And, “Beat them guts right, she’ll love you.” Or the more subtle, “Son, when your ***** gets hard that means it’s time to have s*x. You stick it in her hole.” All the above clean skipped anything to do with real intimacy and sounds brutal. Now I’m not hating! You and he may very well enjoy the polistic smashing part. But it’s just A PART, and he needs to understand that before he loses you mentally by missing you physically.
Both need to be more attentive to the other, so get books, take a massage class, study spa treatments and reflexology. Find out what scents and tastes each other like. You would be amazed at what a scalp massage will do at the right time. Study each other’s timing to become more in sync with each other. Asking her for s*x when the baby is crying, you look and or smell like a mess, or after you just finished complaining about something, might not be a good time. Take 5 - 10 minutes each day and think of something you can do to better please them physically, mentally and spiritually.
Aren’t they worth it?
Anthony Stewart
Author / Troubleshooter
tony@stopthinkandbe.com
Learning how to touch, caress, kiss and even talk a female into a state of ecstatic relaxation before, during and after the main event, can only help you and her! Though many women know what they like, it’s based in the realm of what they have experienced. You’ll find quite often that she has never been engaged in certain ways and that a new experience in its self can help keep the fires blazing between you two.
Some women lie to men in the bed, with the screaming and other theatrics, because they don’t want to hurt his feelings or piss him off and end up having him go elsewhere to find someone he CAN please. They don’t want to lose the WHOLE man over s*x. But when you lie to him (not saying all do), you make him believe he has completely fulfilled you, when he hasn’t, which sets up a cycle of misinformation as well. He will then transmit that info to others in the language of,
“Man I put that pole on her last night! I smashed that! She was screamin’ and begging me to stop.” And, “Beat them guts right, she’ll love you.” Or the more subtle, “Son, when your ***** gets hard that means it’s time to have s*x. You stick it in her hole.” All the above clean skipped anything to do with real intimacy and sounds brutal. Now I’m not hating! You and he may very well enjoy the polistic smashing part. But it’s just A PART, and he needs to understand that before he loses you mentally by missing you physically.
Both need to be more attentive to the other, so get books, take a massage class, study spa treatments and reflexology. Find out what scents and tastes each other like. You would be amazed at what a scalp massage will do at the right time. Study each other’s timing to become more in sync with each other. Asking her for s*x when the baby is crying, you look and or smell like a mess, or after you just finished complaining about something, might not be a good time. Take 5 - 10 minutes each day and think of something you can do to better please them physically, mentally and spiritually.
Aren’t they worth it?
Anthony Stewart
Author / Troubleshooter
tony@stopthinkandbe.com
