THE WORD FOR TODAY IS "LOVE"...DO WE REALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS?
Peace,
I was in a online discussion with some Pan-Africanist students and we were all discussing the meaning of love. We have all said (and heard) the words "I love you" at some time in our lives. We say it to our parents, aunts, uncles, children, girlfriend, boyfriends, spouses, and so forth and so on. I have begun to ask myself, what are people really saying when they say "I Love You"?
Therefore I pose the following questions:
1. How do you define love? Is it something you do - "make love", or something you say, "I love you", or is it an invisible feeling?
2. When you use the word love, what do you really mean and do you truly know what you mean?
3. Is love high fiving everyone who agrees with you and with whom you agree with?
4. Is it lack of love to challenge someone or to confront them about something rather than let it slide?
5. If you use the term "love" to refer to s*xual relations only, what kind of love is made through the s*x act? Isn't love supposed to last longer than 10-15 minutes of your life?
I welcome all feedback, thank you in advance.
I have much to say about the topic, but I'll keep it short and to the point as to not overwhelm anyone. Here are my answers:
1. How do you define love? is it something you do - "make love", or something you say, "i love you", or is it an invisible feeling?
To me love is more than a feeling. I believe It Can Be An ACTION and EXPRESSION in addition to being a FEELING. Love requires the ability to do something...even when you don't feel like it at times. Love is only manifested when 2 or more things are involved in some kind of relationship. You can't love unless there is something or someone to relate to. How can you love if there's nothing to express that idea you feel?
2. When you use the word love, what do you really mean and do you truly know what you mean?
Well we all have experienced childhood crushes or what some elders would refer to as "puppy love." But as you get older and go through the hell of relationships that produce some amount of idea of love you finally understand that you have to earn it and you have to give it as well you need it.
3. Is love high fiving everyone who agrees with you and with whom you agree with?
Emphatically no...that's the same as kissing ass (LOL).
4. Is it lack of love to challenge someone or to confront them about something rather than let it slide?
When we find others in error it is the duty as a caring individual to correct that person. But in order to get the best results, your posture must be at neutral or zero. Meaning you can't bring your preconceived ideas "IN" with you and expect to come "OUT" right.
5. If you use the term "love" to refer to s*xual relations only, what kind of love is made through the s*x act? Isn't love supposed to last longer than 10-15 minutes of your life?
One of the most common mistakes people make is confusing s*x with love. s*x is not love, when people engage in s*x they would love to share some pleasure with that person...set off some fireworks maybe(LOL)? But s*x in and of itself is not love, and if it is love it sure doesn't last very long. Love is supposed to last longer than 10-15 minutes of your life.