WHY DO MEN COMPLAIN?

real men know how to keep it moving good or bad ,,thanks sis this is a good post !

THANK YOU.... and I agree real men do keep it moving....

Hello Cynthia,

I am curious to know that out of all the Black American men you would go and put a White man picture on your blog.

You really love White men, don’t you? I don’t mine that you love White men as long as you stop hating on Black men like Jamal Abraham, Jake and me.

AND THAT WAS A REAL STUPID COMMENT HARRY ,,REAL PROPHETIC ,I GUESS GOD SENT THAT DOWN ON HIS LUNCH BRAKE !

"Usually people who complain are unhappy. They are unsatisfied with life. They are not getting what they need or want to be happy, so they complain."

David, LOL.

The man is crying Harry. Looks just like you.

LOL... Thanks you guys for responding to Harry's ignorant statements...

I refuse to entertain his stupid azz!!

Hello Cynthia,

You refuse to comment because you know what I am saying about you is true. I caught you off-guard and by surprise. You wrote what is in your heart. You love White men and then you come on this Black site trashing Black American men and I don’t like that!

What is in a man’s heart is what defines him am I right?

Harry,

All you and Jake have left now is your constant whining. You and Jake have lost all credibility.

•Send them to JustGriping.com. A place online for them to whine and complain all day long without annoying anyone else.

Here are some reasons about why people whine and complain all of the time:
They may have a big ego, or think they're better than the rest, and that's (usually) not true.
•Usually people who complain are unhappy. They are unsatisfied with life. They are not getting what they need or want to be happy, so they complain.

Cynthia,

Black American men cry, and since you are a Black American woman why couldn’t you use a Black American man on your blog instead of a White man is my question.

I did some analytical thinking and what I came up with is that is in love with White men and perhaps liked the s*xual abuse they dragged you through am I right.

However, it is something that you can get over and come back to your senses and find love and comfort in your own kinds.

Are you now sorry that you unconsciously use a White man on your blog when you should have used a Black man since you are a Black woman?

Hello David,

I would like a respond from Cynthia, please.

YOU SOLD YOUR SOUL TO THE DEVIL

Hello David,

Something is mentally wrong with you and you don’t see, well you wouldn’t. It doesn’t add-up that now you call me a sell-out, but it is me who wants Black Americans to have self-determination.

In addition, what is it that you want? I know that you don’t want Black Americans to have our own country, so what is it that you want?

All that you do is ramble and post the news as you hear it on CNN. Well, most of us through out the country have cable.

Your priority from the time you join this site was to be the blog king. That is such a low goal. A child was among other children would that as a goal, but not a grown man.

You not an analytical thinker, so what good do you bring to the table for Black Americans.

You are not constant. You are not original. I’ve never posted a blog that was someone else idea or thinking. I am original.
Nothing you blog comes from your own thinking it is articles that other people have written or the news. You are a very ignorant man.

What is your solution to fixing Black America’s problems permanently? Let us talk about that!

So, Cynthia answer my question about using a White man to represent her sentiments rather than a Black man since she is a Black woman.

All of you all are a bunch of Oreo cookies that are Black on the out side and all White on the in side. How can Black Americans get ahead with Blacks like you all in our ranks?

I just ignore passive-aggressive folk!

HI JEN ,,hows the church thing going for you you still WORKING for the LORD I know you got the holy ghost and speaking in tongues ? Well be careful girl around here they will snatch you wig off and beat you with the bible ,THEM GIRL been wanting to talk to you about a few thangs
but your to holy for all that ,,and you show aint gonna get in no man stuff you just driving bye looking around on yo way to see TD JAKES ,NO PUN intended !

SAY IT FAST ,,sell out ,,***** HARRY ! BARK BARK BARKING does not work with KING DAVID
sellout ,***** Harry your a ***** ,in the worst way ,not a house ***** ,not a field ***** ,you
are the ***** that dont know how to follow instruction the one we got to tame notice we are getting you to remove the bull**** prophet story slowly but surely ,,,you ll be ok in a week or two ,,,,where is your white Jewish boy yakob,saint jakes ,,,you know he is a american Israelite. in his own words

@Irma Robinson
1. No I 'm not a member of the Black Race because no one is Black or White.
My nationality is an Israelite,,THAT MEANS HE IS A WHITE BOY !

NOW LOOK AT THE PIC ,,SELLOUT ***** HARRY !

Stupid David,

I am looking at the picture and I want to know in this day and time up over 200 years from slavery that a stupid ass Black woman like Cynthia would put a White man up to represent her feelings if she wasn’t a female Oreo cookie woman. The White man in the picture looks like Steve William.

Are you a shame of her, stupid? If not than you are an Oreo cookie yourself dumb-ass.

They All Look The Same To Me! Countering The Own-Race Bias
By Warren Davies | November 23rd 2010 02:11 PM

Do you find it harder to recognise people of different races to your own? Have you ever used the phrase "They all look the same to me!" If so, you're not alone; it's a documented phenomenon called the "own-race bias". Why it happens isn't completely clear, but some evidence indicates that own-race faces are perceived more holistically than other races.

Johnson and Fredrickson (2005) wondered, if that was true, would positive emotions reduce the own-race bias? Fredrickson's broaden-and-build model proposes that so-called positive emotions (happiness, joy etc. - ones that are pleasant to experience) can broaden our thought-action repertoire, and in the case of visual perception, cause us to perceive things more globally. So maybe positive emotions would cause more holistic face processing, and therefore reduce the own-race bias.

They set up two tests to figure this out, which were both broken into the same 4 stages:

First, participants were split randomly into 3 groups, and each group watched a different video (see below).

Participants then saw a series of faces, 28 faces divided equally between gender and race (half black and half white people). Presumably this was on a computer.

Next, they watched a different video.

Finally, they took a face recognition test. Another 28 faces, also with an even gender and race split, were added to the 28 used previously. The faces were shown in a random order, and participants has to report whether each face had been part of the previous set.

The videos in steps 1 and 3 were used to either elicit the emotional responses of joy (with a comedy video), fear (with a horror movie clip), or no emotion (neutral videos - a woodworking video and a video of ordinary objects). Self-report measures were also given as a way of checking the videos had the desired effect.

I mentioned this test was done twice. The difference between the two experiments was the timing of the emotion-inducing video - it was shown either in the first step, or the third. This was to test the effect of the emotions on the encoding and retrieval memory processes.
If the positive emotion provided by the comedy video did reduce the own-race bias, a greater recognition should have been found in those groups compared to the fear and neutral groups - and that's what the results showed, in both experiments.

The comedy group showed no difference between races in facial recognition, while the neutral and fear groups did. Furthermore, this was caused by poor recognition of black faces in the neutral and fear groups, as opposed to poor recognition of white faces in the comedy group (these are results averaged over the two tests):

This seems to support the idea that positive emotions reduce - or eliminate even - the own-race bias in facial recognition. However it doesn't necessarily demonstrate that broaden-and-build is at work here, because an alternative explanation noted by the authors is more inclusive categorisation - we tend to categorise faces by race before anything else, and perhaps positive emotions reduce this effect by promoting more inclusive categorisations.

It's interesting that inducing joy improved recognition, even when induced before the first set of faces - the effect of positive emotions on facial processing seems to apply to faces that have already been learned. The authors speculate that this might lead to use in eye-witness testimony.

Of course, a comedy video is a narrow definition of 'positive emotion', so it's unclear whether the results of this test would generalise to other pleasant states, such as gratitude for instance. Plus, the sample sizes in the groups were fairly small (14-20). But, it's consistent with the broaden-and-build theory.

So now you know what to do if you're having trouble recognising people of a different race - put some comedy videos on! (I suggest Bill Hicks).

Reference:

Johnson, K. J.,&Fredrickson, B. L. (2005). "We all look the same to me": Positive emotions eliminate the own-race bias in face recognition. Psychological Science, 16, 875-881.

http://www.science20.com/positive_psycholo...

Steve,

Right now all I can say is that my question must have been psychologically heart ranching to dumb-ass Cynthia that she has abandon her own blog. She is either stupid or she craves White men. She follows you all around. She appeased you by turning on Jamal and said that I was next.

I hope she would change and come back to her own race and contribute to the good of Black Americans. And, if she wants a White man over a Black American man that is fine because I am not against interracial marriages, but I would discourage it.

She must have thought I am a piece of cake like Jamal, but I keep telling you all that I am a real live prophet to Black Americans and that their no Black American smarter than I am and no White person smarter than I am.

Likewise, there were no Hebrew smarter than Moses and no Egyptian was smarter than Moses was either. To you get my point?

Harry,

Stick with the conversation.

"The White man in the picture looks like Steve William."

Retard. The conversation and the blog is about Cynthia's question why do men complain. Retard.

Harry... I couldn't use your picture.... so I had to use another one... since you seem to always point at racial divide; i on the other hand don't always look at black vs white.

i hope that answers your question.


the blog topic is why do men complain? Not black men or white men.... Men complain?

Hello Cynthia,

Okay, I understand your answer. But, it doesn’t fit the norm, psychologically speaking. I assume that your surroundings and experiences are more Black than White and normally think that you would have seen Black men crying more so than White men.

The exception would be if you are attracted to White men as some White women are attracted to Black men would psychologically explain why you instinctively used a White man to represent your feelings on a Black site to Black American people. I am not fooled, but I will let it pass.

You said that you didn’t use my picture and I will let that sorry joke pass as well.

My main interest Cynthia is that I want to see us think and reason intelligently or analytically rather than stupidly. When you are reasoning analytically all the factual elements when drawn together will make absolute sense.

You have answered my question only because your answer is sensible.

thanks Harry.... but dumb azz.... with an IQ of 68, you want me to reason analytically?

Cynthia,

What does my IQ of 68 have anything to do with you analytically reasoning? What you are saying doesn’t make sense.

Interesting topic, I am a firm believer that both men and women use emotions as a weapon. If or when our wants or needs are not achieved, we signal these feelings through out bursts of emotion. I know if I through a temper tantrum; I can achieve phenomenal results.

as with all women!! LOL
we have the ultimate weapon....

aww... i forgot about this blast from the past!!!

•Usually people who complain are unhappy. They are unsatisfied with life. ...

Yep!

Thanks Jen.... I say t they are just weak....

They want attention.... And ain't no body got time for dat!

Just look at Jake and Harry, perfect examples.

Steve... You are correct... All of this time Yakkie has sat on the sidelines like a lizard ..lurking and waiting... The minute Harry and I get into a disagreement.... Here he comes over traumatizing about slaves and slave masters bull ****.... Seriously!! I have never witnessed such a pathetic excuse for men... And to follow Harry... That's evenly disturbing... But oh well like attracts to like....

@ Aphrodite,

Emotions as a weapon... yep that's when a guy tells a girl that if you loved me you would have s*x with me or a girl is angry with a guy for leaving her for someone else so she want let him see their child... but cashes the child support checks. It's really pathetic.

Or a guy telling a girl that she's never going to find anyone else to love her like him if she leaves... so she stays in the bad r/ship. But in the theme of this blog... one of the bloggers ... Harry thinks he's a prophet to Black ppl and he keeps getting on everyone's blogs...

You can block him but he still comes on through Facebook. ...