Ladies: 5 Ways To Overcome Financial Envy and Increase Your Gratitude
BY: Kara Stevens - 9 Oct '13 | inspiration
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Ever feel that your best life, your “juiciest” life, is taking too long to manifest itself? I can personally admit that l have become envious of the life that I want, instead of the live that I have.
Intellectually, I know that things come in time. Cognitively, I am aware that my envy comes from being unrealistic and unfair to myself. I am also very aware that life has its cycles—reaping, sowing, ebbing and flowing. And being a big girl is a matter of going with all of them.
And for those of you ladies experiencing financial envy— feeling that what you have now is not enough, comparing yourself to others (real or imagined), here are things that I want to gently remind you:
Understand That Life Could Be Worse… So Be Thankful For What You Have
It should not take a financial disaster to make us appreciative of what we have. But sometimes, it does. Learn to be grateful now. Learn to be appreciative that you can pay your rent, car note, and have some left over to save. In other words, count your blessings, literally, by listing at least 20 things that you are grateful for.
Understand That Your Current Financial Situation is Temporary
As you work to pay off your debt, rebuild your credit, and start thinking about retirement, you will begin to see progress and that progress will take you closer to your goals.
Don’t Beat Yourself Up for Past Mistakes
If you spent your rent money swinging from chandeliers in Vegas or on the bag, electronics, or outfit that you just HAD to have, don’t look back. Stroll down memory lane, rock that bag, and wear the hell out of the outfit. What is done is done. You now know better, so you will do better.
Focus On Your Next Paycheck and How You Plan To Improve Your Quality of Life
The best way to overcome envy is by taking action that moves you closer to your goals. If you work a 9-5, you have two opportunities each month to change the course of your financial destiny. Plan accordingly.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Everyone On Facebook and Twitter
If your financial envy comes from wanting to be like __________________ because they keep posting sleek, streamlined pictures of their international jaunts, their fat engagement rings, their new Prada, or Benz, take five big steps away from the internet. Instead of trolling for reasons to be envious, work on building your financial platform and filling yourself with an internal sense of pride and accomplishment.
BMWK: What are your thoughts? How can we overcome financial envy?
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Kara Stevens
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Kara is a motivational speaker, life coach, and founder of the personal finance and lifestyle blog FabulousNFrugal .
Black and Married With Kids.com
A Positive Image of Marriage and Family
Ever feel that your best life, your “juiciest” life, is taking too long to manifest itself? I can personally admit that l have become envious of the life that I want, instead of the live that I have.
Intellectually, I know that things come in time. Cognitively, I am aware that my envy comes from being unrealistic and unfair to myself. I am also very aware that life has its cycles—reaping, sowing, ebbing and flowing. And being a big girl is a matter of going with all of them.
And for those of you ladies experiencing financial envy— feeling that what you have now is not enough, comparing yourself to others (real or imagined), here are things that I want to gently remind you:
Understand That Life Could Be Worse… So Be Thankful For What You Have
It should not take a financial disaster to make us appreciative of what we have. But sometimes, it does. Learn to be grateful now. Learn to be appreciative that you can pay your rent, car note, and have some left over to save. In other words, count your blessings, literally, by listing at least 20 things that you are grateful for.
Understand That Your Current Financial Situation is Temporary
As you work to pay off your debt, rebuild your credit, and start thinking about retirement, you will begin to see progress and that progress will take you closer to your goals.
Don’t Beat Yourself Up for Past Mistakes
If you spent your rent money swinging from chandeliers in Vegas or on the bag, electronics, or outfit that you just HAD to have, don’t look back. Stroll down memory lane, rock that bag, and wear the hell out of the outfit. What is done is done. You now know better, so you will do better.
Focus On Your Next Paycheck and How You Plan To Improve Your Quality of Life
The best way to overcome envy is by taking action that moves you closer to your goals. If you work a 9-5, you have two opportunities each month to change the course of your financial destiny. Plan accordingly.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Everyone On Facebook and Twitter
If your financial envy comes from wanting to be like __________________ because they keep posting sleek, streamlined pictures of their international jaunts, their fat engagement rings, their new Prada, or Benz, take five big steps away from the internet. Instead of trolling for reasons to be envious, work on building your financial platform and filling yourself with an internal sense of pride and accomplishment.
BMWK: What are your thoughts? How can we overcome financial envy?
About the author
Kara Stevens
http://www.fabulousnfrugal.com/
Kara is a motivational speaker, life coach, and founder of the personal finance and lifestyle blog FabulousNFrugal .
..."And for those of you ladies experiencing financial envy— feeling that what you have now is not enough, comparing yourself to others..., Learn to be grateful now. Learn to be appreciative that you can pay your rent, car note, and have some left over to save. In other words, count your blessings, literally, by listing at least 20 things that you are grateful for.
Understand That Your Current Financial Situation is Temporary ...
As you work to pay off your debt, rebuild your credit, and start thinking about retirement, you will begin to see progress and that progress will take you closer to your goals. "
I really appreciate this post, because I feel affirmed as well as a confirmation of what I've been thinking for sometime now and that's to compare yourself to NOBODY but GOD! My worth or relevance has nothing to do with what I own. Don't get me wrong though, I do believe that the child that has his own, God does blesses; however, He also blesses the child that doesn't.
In the past, especially early on this long held conviction of mine has been a key cause of contention in my marriage, but thank God that He has a way of making married couples to compromise as they grow together. The compromise has been a real God-send so I don't let others in our extended community pressure me to get into debt that I know I can't pay.