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Why I Read to My Infant Son

Yaiqab Saint · Sunday, July 13th 2014 at 8:49PM · 1313 views
BY: BMWK Staff - 11 Jul '14 | Parenting
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Since becoming a first time mother in January, I knew that I had a miraculous opportunity to love and raise a gift from God. I also knew the extra special care and attention I would need to place on building my son’s self-esteem. Hardly a week goes by where a negative image in the media isn’t being played out, images that could create the narrative for my son’s outlook on life if I let it. But I am determined to make up for the areas where mainstream media lacks when it comes to building our boys up. My son is only four months old, but from the time he was two weeks old I’ve been reading to him. He’s loved it since day one. He coos as I turn the pages, and now has even learned to turn the pages himself. Yes, I’m a proud mom!

More than that, I’m a conscious mom. If I let media shape his impression of himself, I’d be in for a world of hurt. Gone are the days where The Cosby Show and other wholesome sitcoms starring black families ruled the airways. Music is not any better. I’ve always known that books were important, but since becoming a mother, I’ve realized books are a gateway for me to engage in entertainment directly with my son. When I read to him, I transform and really get engaged in the stories I share with him and it’s a great bonding experience.

I have a lot still to learn about motherhood, but one thing I know for sure is that the love and attention I put into building his library can directly pour into his self-esteem. From alphabet books to novels, I’ve begun collecting literature with positive, black protagonists. It is no easy feat, because as with elsewhere, black images are lacking–but with time and dedication, I know that by the time my son is an independent reader, he will have a library collection that gives him a worldview where people like him are at the center-consciously, positively, and lovingly.

BMWK Family, what are you reading to your little ones?

Najat Shamsid-Deen is a wife and first-time mother of one. She is passionate about black children’s literature and together with her mother has begun creating positive content centered around black characters. Their first project, The Prince and Timberance, now available on Amazon, is an epic tale and chapter book for young readers that features a handsome prince, a charming maiden, and a world of magic and adventure. View her website where she blogs about her passion at enchantedroots.wordpress.com.



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Yaiqab Saint Sunday, July 13th 2014 at 9:05PM

I don't have a son but a daughter and we are all motivated by different reasons why we read to our children

However the primary reason why we read to our daughter is for the development of a higher IQ and intellectual development.

Reading is the basics of learning and how to think independently and to think critically as well.

Then we have a library of Black Inventors and Outstanding Literary and Scientific catalogues.

Janelle and Yaqaib don't expect another nationality to raise her self-esteem and well being.

That is not even a consideration in our mind.

The second reason is emotional bonding and enabling her to feel safe and loved.

After we read to her we immediately transition into this emotional bonding process which further develops her self-esteem.

"Baby Gurl" is emotionally invested by her parents so when the travails of life occurs during her older years she will have the confidence to share them with us to help her make the right decisions that will effect her success in life.

She has at least two nights a week when I spend significant time with her in the bonding process, despite being Janelle's twin and closest confidant.

Our children's future needs to be shaped by their parents !!!

Jeni Fa Monday, July 14th 2014 at 8:46AM

Early literacy builds a child's vocabulary and builds the foundation for a life long love of reading. My son is 9 and although he does independent reading, I still read to him at bedtime. He loves it, but I have to admit as well... I rather enjoy our reading time. We're lovers and supporters of the library as well although many things can be downloaded and read via Kindle or some type of electronic media.

Hey Saint, do you have Spike and Tonya Lee's children book(s)? If not, that ("Please, Baby, Please") book is a really good read for baby girl. There was one other with please in it. "Please, Baby, Please" http://www.amazon.com/Please-Baby-Spike-Le...
"Please, Puppy, Please" http://www.amazon.com/Please-Puppy-Spike-L...


http://www.parentdish.com/2011/01/18/spike...




Yaiqab Saint Monday, July 14th 2014 at 12:30PM

@ Jeni

To answer your question we do have Spike Lee's- "Please, Baby, Please"- very nice book indeed and I believe I posted a blog concerning that book awhile ago on this forum!

The first book that I read to "Baby Gurl" and to this day is : "In Daddy's Arm I Am Tall, African Americans Celebrating Fathers" by Javaka Steptoe.

This is one of my favorite because I'm her first male that she falls in love with !

In my opinion these are great self-esteem/love books for our children as follows:

1. I Love My Hair by Natasha Anastasia Tarpley and E.B. Lewis.

2. Full, Full, Full of Love by Trish Cooke and Paul Howard.

3. Girl of Mine by Jabari Asim and LeUyen Pharm.

4. The Color of Us by Karen Katz

5. I'm A Pretty Black Girl by Betty Bynum

6. Lola Loves Stories by Anna McQuinn

7. My Nana and Me by Irene Smalls

Academic/ Black American Achievement References:

1. What Color Is My World by Kareem Abdul-Jabbar

2. Searching For Sarah Rector: The Richest Black Girl in America by Tonya Bolden

3. Black Stars: African American Women Scientists and Inventors Otha R. Sullivan & Jim Haskins

4. This Jazz Man- Karen Ehrhardt


There are so many other references on achievements however Jazz Man is what "Baby Gurl" loves and then when we bond I start my catalogues of jazz greats and it knocks her out".

I used this as a intro the attached video and burn-it- with each CD dedicated to my heart!

That's what I do...do..........................................

Jeni Fa Monday, July 14th 2014 at 1:11PM

Nice references, but I'm sure you wouldn't mind me adding to your list, eh? Check out books by Author, Ifeoma Okoye https://www.franceslincoln.com/ifeoma-onye...

Chika's House

Ayo and His Pencil

Neka Goes to Market

A Is for Africa

Chidi Only Likes Blue: An African Book of Colours

Triangle for Adaora: An African Book of Shapes

Ebele's Favourite: A Book of African Games

One Big Family: Sharing Life in an African Village

New Shoes for Helen

Omer's Favorite Place

The Goat That Vanished

Deron Goes to Nursery School

Grandma Comes to Stay .... and so many others!

Yaiqab Saint Monday, July 14th 2014 at 1:16PM

@ Good Job

No excuse for any parent allowing the dominant nationality to shape your children's self-esteem.

Do it yourself and stop whining!

Jeni Fa Monday, July 14th 2014 at 1:19PM

I hear you Saint. Its nice to read from authors that have no intention of shaping their child's view of themselves because being Black to them is normal. This is why I like reading African children's literature. You can't find it in the library, but you can order it on line. This author Ife, is absolutely fabulous! I sent "Neke Goes to Market" and "Please, Baby, Please" for Black History once for the teacher to read to the class... She was absolutely blown away by the story line and the beautiful art work. I thought she was going to cry! Lol


Sister Juanita From Memphis Monday, July 14th 2014 at 5:03PM

Great post, one of the most important trait a parent should want to develop in their child is the love of reading. Readers are leaders and as a parent, you have the power to boost your children's learning potential simply by making books an integral part of their lives.

The "Afrobets" series by Cheryl Willis Hudson and Wade Hudson are perfect first books to share with a small child. I've used this series when my children were toddlers and they loved them, so much so that they read them repeatedly (lol). Sometimes, your child likes a particular book and wants to read it nonstop. As a mother I've never discouraged this, since he or she finds reading this book pleasurable and pleasure is what they should get from reading. Also, they are getting the most out of the book and is giving you a hint about their interest.

Steve Williams Monday, July 14th 2014 at 5:16PM

I always told my sons, if they didn't do anything else, they needed to read.

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Sylvainy R Monday, July 14th 2014 at 5:20PM

Great post Yaiqab Saint

Harry Watley Tuesday, July 15th 2014 at 4:32AM

Hello to all,

The good will of this blog I understand and I accept with reservations! None of this will work for Black Americans descended of plantation slaves if we are not a sovereign people living in a country of our own!

Black America’s only permanent solution is that we must desire to become a sovereign people in a country of our own to worship God, pursue life, liberty, happiness and prosperity in our own way and by our own hands!

Why is this concept so difficult for you all to wrap your heads around?

Jeni Fa Tuesday, July 15th 2014 at 2:19PM

@ Sister Juanita,

Lol , yep kids little kids love repetition and it's a teaching strategy used by early childhood educators.


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