How do you love yourself?
I have been told by several people here that I need to learn to love myself again. My problem is I absolutely have no idea how too? I mean I am a single father of two, a 12 and 13 year old and I have custody of them. I have for years first built my life around my family and when that went to pieces I went back out on the dating scene and caught feelings for people that seriously didn't deserve my love, my effort. I went from caring about my ex-wife and my kids to caring about other woman and thier kids, now being single and getting closer again with my kids because I no longer have a woman coming over every night I have time to read, surf the internet, meditate, pray and speak with friends and family that I really haven't spoken with since I was in my last relationship.
Now comes the question, how does one learn to love themselves when they have spend decades loving and trying to accomodate everyone else?
Any thoughts?
You know I had years ago been called selfish, arrogant. But that was when I wasn't understanding, it was my way or the highway and you know I can honestly say when I was like that my life was great! I have plenty of things and no stress regarding failed relationships or anything else. I know now there has to be open dialog between the two and there should never be any problems discussing what your standards are. But again I guess I am so used to being a attached I don't know how to be "un"attached.
Now comes the question, how does one learn to love themselves when they have spend decades loving and trying to accomodate everyone else?
Any thoughts?
You know I had years ago been called selfish, arrogant. But that was when I wasn't understanding, it was my way or the highway and you know I can honestly say when I was like that my life was great! I have plenty of things and no stress regarding failed relationships or anything else. I know now there has to be open dialog between the two and there should never be any problems discussing what your standards are. But again I guess I am so used to being a attached I don't know how to be "un"attached.
Russell bro... realize first the things most important in your life... your children and your well-being... find what makes them happy and spend time in the city parks, going out quality time, and you'll find yourself... whatever you do, don't stay locked up and confined by the 4 walls of your home... find ways to be active, join a gym you'll find yourself...