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Is it better for a black woman to make $60K a year and be single; or make $0 (outside the home) and be happily married? Is there a reason a hardworking Black men will not approach (**UPDATE** approach the right way) a Black woman he knows makes more than him, even though he may be interested? Should the black woman who makes a good income resolve to being single, forever?
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Wednesday, October 21st 2009 at 6:45AM
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Again, Our poet laureate says it better than I do at BIA.
As a Muslim though,
During the time of Elijah Muhammad;
I had gotten educated, I had gotten a good position, I had gotten an apartment and I went to my Captain and told him that I was ready to ask a good Muslim woman for Marriage and Family.
As a former Marine Drill Sgt.; he then went to his counterpart in the training of young women--She was a Pathologist friend of the Lady I had seen from afar.
Our Guardians arranged a meeting with them present--my first meeting with the sister. The sister asked me how many Muhammad Speaks I sold; she asked me how many pounds of Whiting H&G I sold; she asked me how long I had been employed and she asked me if I was prepared to take responsibility for her and her family.
I passed Her tests.
She agreed to marry me.
Now it just so happens she also was studying to be a Doctor and our situation from the start was a good situation and a splendid love that lasts to this day.
In my expericence I DO NOT BELIEVE a single person should approach a member of the opposite s*x for any private meeting.
I DO BELIEVE that a single person should approach a Father/Mother/Uncle/Aunt of a person that they have an interest in and let their family make introductions and observations.
It just so happens that Our Leader President Baraka Hussein Obama met the parents of Michelle first-and had to prove to her 6'6" 240lb brother that He was the proper suitor for his sister.
Wednesday, October 21st 2009 at 10:25AM
robert powell
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I don't understand why a woman is still waiting to be married...are there no men in her part of the world?
How would a man know how much a woman earns anyway? I've been a registered nurse since I was 24 years old and have lived well since that time and never had a problem with men approaching me for proposals because of my attitude and manners. Perhaps we need to stop lying to ourselves about what the real issues are with us---and why some of us remain single--- (Many of us are desperate, vulnerable, and liars keeping up appearances when we know we want men to take care of us and love us.
My money has never replaced the fact that I needed a man in my life to hold me and care for me. How many times have I heard well meaning sisters (not white women) say that they can take care of themselves or I don't need a man because I got Jesus? Now that's nonsense to me and I made sure to separate myself from those hypocrites. I am sorry to come off like this, but I'm really tired of hearing this kind of stuff. We are delusional if we think that money will keep men from wanting to be with us. I thought money was like a magnet and drew things towards it. If I have offended anyone, then accept my apology in advance.
I'm open for dialogue if we are ready to be honest about what's really wrong.
Wednesday, October 21st 2009 at 2:06PM
Jen Fad
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Your question poses only choices of money or marriage? I believe that there are black women who'd like both. Money and Marriage. In regard to that-- many women of color have the balance of both, which makes its preceivable that living full lives has the offer a harmony with some wealth and a full lifetime mate of a husband. I think that one must also remember, there are black women who prefer to remain single for life as well. Black women who earn a hefty income may choose to remain single for any number of reasons. It could be marriage just isn't for them. Every woman is different, and I certainly can agree that marriage isn't for every black woman. Nor is having or making a huge income is for every black woman either. I don't personally, black woman security isn't found in these. A truer wealth is found much deeper inside herself. Love of her God I feel is vital over all things.
Wednesday, October 21st 2009 at 6:42PM
MIISRAEL Bride
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Hello Robert,
Are you a follow-up of Mr. Louis Farrakhan?
Thursday, October 22nd 2009 at 9:44PM
Harry Watley
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again Harry,
I got my English dictionary and I dont know what----"a follow-up"---means in English.
Saturday, October 24th 2009 at 7:17PM
robert powell
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Hello Robert,
I meant to say follower and not follow up.
Okay.
Saturday, October 24th 2009 at 7:56PM
Harry Watley
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..."I have learned, since joining the Nation it is preferred to marry only a man in the Nation (an FOI)"...
Is this a NOI teaching or a Holy Quran teaching? I was in a religious organization which taught that same thing, but I didn't follow it because I couldn't find it (teaching) in the Bible so I decided to ignore that teaching & I'm really glad that I did. I followed my common sense instead because there were not many men in that particular organization. You can imagine that the few men were trying to 'mack' with all the single ladies! ((Lol))
Saturday, October 24th 2009 at 9:00PM
Jen Fad
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Thank You Leah for discussing an important issue of Family Development
and Thank You JenFad for your Scholastic Observation.
Leah, I believe in your present understanding at least you should have proper Facts,
so that you might make a better life for you, your children and your community.
Nation?----FOI?----Elijah Muhammad died in 1975--
louis farrakhan became AbdulHaleem Farrakhan---
He submitted to AlIslaam and the Sunnah of Mohamed.
Then in 1979 he wanted to Devolve.
He wanted Men to call him "louis" again, and started to perpetuate and become;
The Bernie Madoff of 'Black" Social-Pass the Bucket for My Family(a 'black' thing)
If you want to follow AlIslaam; -AlQur'aan is the guide to the Life and Marriage of Believers.
I do not believe that the guards of the 'Black' Madoff are the Best,
Islamic Male Partners would be Best for a Muslim woman, and even the Best 'Black' Partners could be better than Devolutionists.
Being single, In My Opinion, is Catholic or Gay, its not even LDS-mormon,
The Creator of the Heavens and the Earth requires living things to have a mate.
Muslims number 2Billion in the World; there are Millions of Successful Muslim Men that follow AlIslaam and the Sunnah of Mohamed that would be honored to marry a believing woman and mother.
I apologize if you might think that this is too personal but Leah, I believe you are sincerely searching for an Evolution of Thought.
Sunday, October 25th 2009 at 10:35AM
robert powell
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Leah,
Adaam with his first companion Howah-eve; at some time showed UnDisciplined, behavior with a 'tree' of Knowledge.
eurocentricchristian thought labels this action by Our Father and Mother as a Sin?
Islaamic thought labels this action as a part of The Creators decision to give man free thought---
Adaam/Howah; our Father and Mother Did not Sin!---There was no sin, then.
Free thought, since, is defined by Allaahs first words to Mohamed(as)---
Iqraa'-look, see, search, and comprehend the created.
I am a simple person but in looking at the beautiful picture of your Library, you might want to arrange AlQur'aan on top shelf, Hadeeth on second and the photos can go in the scrapbook on the bottom.
The place for the Descendants of Adaam/Howaah is Paradise;
and a Mate, molded by AlQur'aan I believe would be a wonderous journey to Paradise for you.
I pray that your wisdom is rewarded with a Descendant of Adam/Howaah as a Mate for you that uses Discipline and follows the Law of Creator.
Sunday, October 25th 2009 at 11:35AM
robert powell
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Leah X, if you do marry, please make sure that who you marry and you are each other's best friend. I see so many people marry because they are IN LOVE...but, they learn all too soon that they must also be friends.As a rule it is too late to save that marriage, because the excitment of LOVE not become/ remain as a catch all when hard times, or even time it self begins to change the IN LOVE relationship.
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
ROBINSON IRMA
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