Do you just Pretend they Never Existed??
I asked this question before, but if your so called sister/brother hasn't been seen in, say 2-3 years, do you call to see how they are? If they had surgery, did you call them to see if they need anything? If they have an illness, do you check up on them? Or do you just leave them out there all alone for 3 long years???
I am like you Irma, but my mother likes to be assured she is cared for. Some of us have this assurance others don't. But she will always take care to assure others. as she wants for herself. Now my dad and I are of like mind, we touch base every so often but don't think anything of it if it's been a while.