Black Women, Will You Please, Stop Goin' for Blows Over that Man?
I'll just cut to the chase here.
I get so sick and tired of women ready to tear each other apart over some dude!!! It's aggravating as hell!!!!
Can we stop the madness??????????? There's nothing more embarrassing to me as a black woman to see two other black women cursing each other out and physically fighting over some guy.
I have a philosophy about such things and before I got married, I said it to every guy I ever dated:
"If I have to even come close to addressing another female behind you or if another female approaches me about you and YOU don't handle it...YOU need to go be with HER because I ain't fightin' over you and no other man."
I meant that, too. Don't book a fight for me, partnah. I won't be disrespecting myself or another woman so you feel better about yourself and feel that important.
I've even said to women who have been with guys I've dated, "Sistah, my problem is not with YOU. YOU'RE not the one who made me promises and had me thinkin' you were faithful. That was HIM and I'll take it up with HIM when I see him." I've had women that I've tried to advise of how stupid it looks to be argueing and fighting when he's just standing back as an entertained spectator. I've even had a few of those women tell me they don't care what it looks like, "She ain't gone disrepeck me!!! This MY man!!!"
Then, my question becomes, "Does HE know he's your man? Because he ain't saying nothin'." Of course, he gets made then and is ready to fight me for calling him out.
Ladies, please, stop making fools of yourselves and stop battling other women behind sorryness. Stop. If he cheats or plays games, charge it to HIM, not HER. She can only do or go as far as HE allows. If you have to demand that he puts her in her place, let that be your first red flag that HE doesn't respect YOU. Demand that somebody else chill out??? Please, if he's as sorry as you think is, that'll be an argument.
YOU respect you...that way you'll know when you're being disrespected...by him or anyone else.
Stop the madness, PUH-LEEZ!!!!
Okay, I'm done venting. I just had to get that out of my system.
Blessings...
I get so sick and tired of women ready to tear each other apart over some dude!!! It's aggravating as hell!!!!
Can we stop the madness??????????? There's nothing more embarrassing to me as a black woman to see two other black women cursing each other out and physically fighting over some guy.
I have a philosophy about such things and before I got married, I said it to every guy I ever dated:
"If I have to even come close to addressing another female behind you or if another female approaches me about you and YOU don't handle it...YOU need to go be with HER because I ain't fightin' over you and no other man."
I meant that, too. Don't book a fight for me, partnah. I won't be disrespecting myself or another woman so you feel better about yourself and feel that important.
I've even said to women who have been with guys I've dated, "Sistah, my problem is not with YOU. YOU'RE not the one who made me promises and had me thinkin' you were faithful. That was HIM and I'll take it up with HIM when I see him." I've had women that I've tried to advise of how stupid it looks to be argueing and fighting when he's just standing back as an entertained spectator. I've even had a few of those women tell me they don't care what it looks like, "She ain't gone disrepeck me!!! This MY man!!!"
Then, my question becomes, "Does HE know he's your man? Because he ain't saying nothin'." Of course, he gets made then and is ready to fight me for calling him out.
Ladies, please, stop making fools of yourselves and stop battling other women behind sorryness. Stop. If he cheats or plays games, charge it to HIM, not HER. She can only do or go as far as HE allows. If you have to demand that he puts her in her place, let that be your first red flag that HE doesn't respect YOU. Demand that somebody else chill out??? Please, if he's as sorry as you think is, that'll be an argument.
YOU respect you...that way you'll know when you're being disrespected...by him or anyone else.
Stop the madness, PUH-LEEZ!!!!
Okay, I'm done venting. I just had to get that out of my system.
Blessings...
I couldn't agree more, Dee.