Truth Be Told (Essence.com)

I read the Essence interview from my email. Recovering from an abusive relationship is something that while you are going through it, you don't think you will ever make it out of, is very hard to do. (Especially the mental trip it gives you) I speak from experience. Abuse in any form destroys your soul, it can tear down the very essence of who you are. Rising from the ashes has taught me strength beyond measure. Now I have a testimony, to any woman that would encourage, uplift, and most importantly to love. One thing I have to say to my abuser is Thank you, because now I am stronger, I'm wiser, and better (M. Sapp 2008). I am grateful that Sandy has told her story, like her I was embarrassed to tell anyone about my abuse (during that time). However, her time is now to tell it, because there is someone within her family, friends, or fan club that would receive her story and begin to pull themselves up through the ashes. What better people to have gone through abuse and live to tell it. I can say now, I'm so glad that I do not look like what I've been through.

Cheryl, thanks for sharing your story. This is why I know it was important that Sandy tell hers. People need to know they are not alone--as she thought she was for so many years. It's crazy...a lot of women actually feel embarrassed or that it's somehow their fault.

I was at the reunion concert in Detroit last night. Salt -N-Pepa did their thang. Pepa thanks for writing your book, telling all. You helped me. Thanks for signing my book as well in the middle of your set. I will cherish the memory

I listen to their songs "Independent" and "Express Yourself" on my Ipod every morning when I'm doing my laps at the park. It is inspiring and empowering to hear women rap about how vital it is to be your own person and to take responsibility for yourself and your decisions. Old school rap like this should be required listening for all girls and women, everywhere. Let's Talk About Pep should be required listening.

I loved it